When You Aren't Everyone's Cuppa Tea [2025 Re-Post] | Praise Podcast

Strained relationships with co-workers, extended family, or others? You are not alone!

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00:00:35 --> 00:00:38 Hello and welcome to Momo 634.

00:00:39 --> 00:00:41 Motivational moments just for today.

00:00:43 --> 00:00:47 Many years ago, I had a co-worker that did not like me.

00:00:47 --> 00:00:51 In fact, he often went out of his way to ensure that I knew it.

00:00:53 --> 00:00:56 Having heard my origin story several episodes ago,

00:00:56 --> 00:01:00 you know that I'm kind of a people pleaser and it guts me when

00:01:00 --> 00:01:01 I know that someone

00:01:01 --> 00:01:03 doesn't like me or is upset with me.

00:01:04 --> 00:01:09 That OCD reassurance checker comes on in my brain like an

00:01:09 --> 00:01:11 engine check light on the car dash.

00:01:12 --> 00:01:18 But this guy was so petty and so rude that one day I literally

00:01:18 --> 00:01:19 stopped myself and I

00:01:19 --> 00:01:23 realized I didn't have a lot of respect for the way he conducted himself.

00:01:25 --> 00:01:28 that I could be professional in my interactions with him,

00:01:28 --> 00:01:30 but we were not going to be besties.

00:01:31 --> 00:01:31 In fact,

00:01:32 --> 00:01:33 since I didn't respect his opinion,

00:01:34 --> 00:01:35 and he clearly didn't know me,

00:01:36 --> 00:01:38 why should I care what he thought of me?

00:01:39 --> 00:01:42 I had close friends whose opinions did matter to me.

00:01:43 --> 00:01:45 If they all of a sudden went on strike,

00:01:46 --> 00:01:50 I could suss it out and maybe see where I needed to repair some bridges.

00:01:50 --> 00:01:54 In fact, this guy seemed to be bothered by my professed Christianity.

00:01:54 --> 00:01:56 So I wondered why I let it bother me.

00:01:58 --> 00:02:00 1 Peter 4,

00:02:00 --> 00:02:01 4-5 says,

00:02:02 --> 00:02:02 In all this,

00:02:03 --> 00:02:06 they are surprised that you do not run with them into the same

00:02:06 --> 00:02:07 excesses of dissipation,

00:02:08 --> 00:02:09 and they malign you.

00:02:09 --> 00:02:13 But they will give an account to him who is ready to judge the

00:02:13 --> 00:02:14 living and the dead.

00:02:16 --> 00:02:17 James 4.4 says,

00:02:18 --> 00:02:19 You adulteresses,

00:02:19 --> 00:02:23 do you not know that friendship with the world is hostility towards God?

00:02:24 --> 00:02:25 Therefore,

00:02:25 --> 00:02:28 whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an

00:02:28 --> 00:02:29 enemy of God.

00:02:32 --> 00:02:34 What's interesting about this story is that,

00:02:35 --> 00:02:38 though I continued to try to treat him professionally during

00:02:38 --> 00:02:38 the times that we were

00:02:38 --> 00:02:39 forced to interact,

00:02:40 --> 00:02:43 He eventually came to appreciate my work ethic.

00:02:44 --> 00:02:44 In fact,

00:02:45 --> 00:02:46 when I left that job,

00:02:46 --> 00:02:49 I later heard that he had a number of complimentary things to

00:02:49 --> 00:02:51 say about me because

00:02:51 --> 00:02:52 he didn't like my replacement.

00:02:52 --> 00:02:53 Now,

00:02:53 --> 00:02:55 he was a tough one to get along with,

00:02:55 --> 00:02:59 so no one was really his particular cup of tea except those in

00:02:59 --> 00:03:00 his inner circle.

00:03:02 --> 00:03:05 So what can you do if you have a co-worker,

00:03:05 --> 00:03:07 extended family member,

00:03:07 --> 00:03:11 or other person that you must encounter who doesn't seem to get

00:03:11 --> 00:03:11 along with you

00:03:12 --> 00:03:13 despite your efforts?

00:03:15 --> 00:03:16 First off, pray.

00:03:17 --> 00:03:20 It's hard to be actively angry with someone that you are

00:03:20 --> 00:03:22 leaving at God's throne.

00:03:24 --> 00:03:24 Secondly,

00:03:25 --> 00:03:27 be sure that you are trying to be professional and courteous

00:03:28 --> 00:03:29 and not the one

00:03:29 --> 00:03:31 creating or exacerbating the problem.

00:03:32 --> 00:03:34 Romans 12,

00:03:34 --> 00:03:34 18 says,

00:03:35 --> 00:03:35 if possible,

00:03:36 --> 00:03:38 so far as it depends on you,

00:03:39 --> 00:03:40 be at peace with all men.

00:03:42 --> 00:03:44 Romans 12, 20 says it this way.

00:03:45 --> 00:03:47 But if your enemy is hungry, feed him.

00:03:48 --> 00:03:50 And if he is thirsty, give him a drink.

00:03:50 --> 00:03:54 For in so doing, you will heap burning coals on his head.

00:03:56 --> 00:03:58 Colossians 4.6 says,

00:03:58 --> 00:04:00 Let your speech always be gracious,

00:04:01 --> 00:04:02 seasoned with salt,

00:04:03 --> 00:04:05 so that you may know how to answer everyone.

00:04:07 --> 00:04:09 Thirdly, set boundaries.

00:04:10 --> 00:04:13 You may need to get someone else involved to try to address the situation.

00:04:14 --> 00:04:17 Matthew 18 sets out a pretty good protocol.

00:04:18 --> 00:04:19 Go to the person privately.

00:04:21 --> 00:04:24 If they refuse to listen, then bring two to three witnesses with you.

00:04:25 --> 00:04:28 If they still won't listen, you may need to escalate it.

00:04:30 --> 00:04:33 This passage is discussing relationships in the church,

00:04:33 --> 00:04:35 but it does work in other contexts.

00:04:37 --> 00:04:42 Lastly, realize there are personality differences and just let it go.

00:04:44 --> 00:04:46 It's not necessarily an indictment of you,

00:04:47 --> 00:04:49 especially for those who don't really know you.

00:04:51 --> 00:04:53 I used to feel that I needed to respond to everything I

00:04:53 --> 00:04:55 disagreed with on social media.

00:04:56 --> 00:04:59 There's a meme of someone blazing on their keyboard saying,

00:05:00 --> 00:05:01 I'll be there in a minute.

00:05:01 --> 00:05:05 Someone said something stupid on the internet and I have to respond.

00:05:07 --> 00:05:08 Really, you don't.

00:05:09 --> 00:05:14 Muting, blocking, or simply scrolling on are tools of the more mature.

00:05:16 --> 00:05:17 Our meme for today says,

00:05:18 --> 00:05:22 excusing someone from your table makes room for those who

00:05:22 --> 00:05:24 genuinely want to be there.

00:05:26 --> 00:05:29 Know when to repair your line and when to cut bait,

00:05:30 --> 00:05:32 a surefire remedy to decrease stress.

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