Ep. 273 Why You Should Stand Up For Yourself

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[00:01:20] To Shide Speak Up, Don't Stay Silent Any longer. Learn how to express yourself effectively and make your voice heard. In this video, I'm going to provide you with valuable tips and tricks to help you find your voice and speak confidently. Alright, let's get into it.

[00:01:38] So one of the main reasons why I decided to create this video is because I have been having one too many conversations with incredible, amazing women who are too afraid to speak up for themselves.

[00:01:52] They failed to do so because of fear being ridiculed, fear of not saying the right thing, or fear of being viewed as angry. Regardless of what your reason may be, I want you to kick every last one of those excuses to the curb.

[00:02:12] Life is way too short to allow someone else to take away your power. Listen, I know I am not everyone's cup of tea. If you ask me my opinion, I'm going to tell you the truth.

[00:02:27] If you want me to do something that doesn't align with my values, I will quickly say no. And if you attempt to disrespect me, you're going to quickly realize that you got the right one and that was your first and last time making that mistake.

[00:02:45] I am direct and unapologetically mean. And I know that that rub some folks the wrong way, but I honestly don't care. Listen, life is too short not to speak up for yourself. I remember when I used to be so afraid of defending myself, I couldn't sleep at night.

[00:03:07] It was, it was eating me up inside to know that I let someone mistreat me for fear of what they may say or what others around them might think about me if I decided to confront that person. Okay?

[00:03:26] And I didn't want to confront someone mistreating me in order to keep the peace. Like how crazy is that? Think about that. I was willing to forgo my peace and dignity and happiness by allowing someone to treat me as a dormant.

[00:03:48] One day something in me just snapped and I realized and embraced what I'm about to share with you. Speaking up is essential to your well-being, in place a major role in your happiness. Here are five reasons why it's important to speak up for yourself.

[00:04:08] Number one, you have the right to express your thoughts and feelings. Speaking up allows you to communicate your ideas, concerns and emotions effectively. And this is crucial for personal growth and building meaningful relationships. The more you communicate your needs and boundaries and various situations is going

[00:04:29] to help you build confidence, which leads us to number two. Ascerting needs, speaking up is going to help you articulate what you need from others, whether it's in a personal relationship at work or in a social setting. Okay?

[00:04:47] This is going to ensure that your needs are acknowledged and met. You have to be able to understand what you deserve and what you're comfortable with when you need to assert yourself. It's not as difficult as some of us make it out to be. It really isn't, guys.

[00:05:06] It's not rocket science. You are literally stating your thoughts, feelings, and needs by making eye statements. When you say I, you're taking control of your feelings and experiences. So for example, instead of saying you are being disrespectful, say I will no longer tolerate you disrespecting me.

[00:05:34] Do you hear the difference? The second sentence sounds more authoritative. It puts that person on notice that you do not condone nor appreciate their disrespectful behavior. Number three, problem solving. It never ceases to amaze me how many problems can be resolved.

[00:05:55] If people would be active listeners, stop being afraid and just talk to each other. When you voice your concerns or suggest solutions, you contribute to finding resolutions and improving situations. When you're able to convey your message, you're going to without a doubt build your confidence

[00:06:17] and that leads to number four, building confidence. Expressing yourself can boost self esteem in self confidence. They reinforce your sense of identity and self worth. This is such a blessing. When you speak up for yourself, you're expressing yourself while simultaneously educating people that you're not a door mat.

[00:06:43] Just be prepared for pushback, okay? Because there are some people who are insecure or control freaks and they don't like it when people defy them. In fact, they want the world to adjust to them and your descent will be taken personally.

[00:07:00] Just know that even if someone does decide to try you, you now have the confidence and experience to defend yourself. And last but not least, when you can defend yourself, you can successfully be an advocate for others. Sometimes speaking up for yourself isn't just about yourself.

[00:07:21] It's about standing up for others who may not be able to voice their concerns or who need support. Now I'm not saying fight their battles for them, but I've always made it my mission to leave a place better than I found it.

[00:07:38] If I see an injustice, I'm going to do everything in my power to write that wrong so no one else has to suffer unnecessarily. I truly hope that you realize all the benefits that can come from speaking up for yourself.

[00:07:53] Speaking up for yourself places you in a position to drive change. When you can effectively speak up for yourself in various situations, whether it's personal relationships at work or in other aspects of your life, it's such a freedom that I cannot describe.

[00:08:10] It's exhilarating quite frankly because you don't have to walk around on egg shells, wondering what other people are going to think about you and how should I respond to this or that? You're just going to automatically know.

[00:08:24] So don't miss out on the opportunity to empower yourself while strengthening your relationships. Just speak up for yourself. Thanks so much for listening to this episode. If you enjoy listening to hustle and faith, I would like to support the show.

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