695. Overcoming Abuse and Finding Faith with Michelle Elizabeth Williams

[00:00:00] Let me in, oh, can I tell them let me in? I came for the streets, the hustlers and drug dealers If you question who we be just tell them that God with us, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, we gonna take it down I like red lollas over trap beats the fixes, yeah Music blasting for the black sheet, yeah serious They like how you build, they're still breaking all their barriers

[00:00:30] It's for the hustlers, this one for the seniors that used to be the customers, no it was gonna be big when when it sees it seem impossible

[00:00:38] Woo, coming live on your radio, what they want?

[00:00:42] The real and wrong, out of unit DJ focus, what we done, making music reach in the corner and it's all for the king

[00:00:49] And we gonna make sure they start, woo, coming live on your radio, what they want?

[00:00:54] Yeah, sir welcome back you to back into the fix your source of fake

[00:01:21] The views if I've aren't being poetry, it's your boy DJ focus checking in

[00:01:25] Hey industry girl nice gamble and the building checking right on in happy Monday everyone

[00:01:31] Thank y'all for waking up with us from these to the West

[00:01:33] Wooo

[00:01:34] Yeah come on, get on up, get that week going

[00:01:39] Let's go

[00:01:40] Come on and get up and have you a great word of prayer with your Lord and Savior so he can get you motivated and get out of these streets

[00:01:47] And being able to be witnessing for the Lord and just be a good example

[00:01:52] Shots out there, everybody who's trying to do their best every time they walk into their job or where they may be going today

[00:01:57] Just trying to represent God to the best of you

[00:02:00] I know listen it's all sometimes you might fall if you have to go walk away and ask for forgiveness

[00:02:05] Just go away and ask for forgiveness

[00:02:07] It is what it is but sometimes people get on your nerves dice sometimes some people got quick tempers

[00:02:14] So I'm praying for everybody who got some quick tempers

[00:02:16] You know, it's a new year

[00:02:18] Yeah yeah yeah I'm just being honest you know

[00:02:20] Some people got triggers dice where you know you got a lot of people that have choice words sometimes or they

[00:02:27] You know be petty at times so I'm just praying for everybody who is working on their attitude

[00:02:32] Yeah sure that's a real thing working on my attitude trying to get better and trying not to snap now but you know

[00:02:38] Just leave people alone now

[00:02:40] But it was out there being aggravating and then you know instigating and then I'm being petty

[00:02:44] Come on now leave people alone now

[00:02:46] People only got you know so many buttons you can push

[00:02:48] I'm so glad you brought that up because here in Chicago they actually the mayor actually

[00:02:52] Put out some commercials last week concerning road rage because they were just saying like 60% of drivers actually are packers

[00:02:59] Of weapons and so it's important now that you don't you know get yourself caught out there by flipping people to bird or

[00:03:07] Yellowing out your window because when you're waiting there in traffic people have a little time to reach on over to that glove box

[00:03:15] So you might want to watch with juice

[00:03:19] Well and pray for and pray for and pray and pray that it's in the glove box because yeah everybody I know still keep up under the seat

[00:03:26] I'm gonna say some people just roll without in my mind

[00:03:29] Yeah like especially if you gonna go up towards like a hundred and second 75 you might as well just take it on out

[00:03:36] Like I'm not

[00:03:38] I'm not

[00:03:40] If you go yeah, you got to be aware where you ask

[00:03:44] So be sure to start there by the safe

[00:03:46] Yeah, yeah, please be safe and everybody use wisdom everybody who has is legally able to carry a weapon

[00:03:52] Please use wisdom to as well with drawn it that's a whole another beast. So yeah, we don't want y'all getting no trouble

[00:03:58] But yeah, guess thank you all for waking up with us

[00:04:00] We got a fun fact show we go into this music break we'll be right back or more keep it locked

[00:04:04] You tune into the fake and the fixes in yes, sir. That's a Tadashi featuring a rich Dan famous

[00:04:10] I think y'all for tapping in with us wake up wake up

[00:04:14] Happy Monday to everybody

[00:04:16] This is the day that the Lord has made we will rejoice and be glad in it and what a beautiful day

[00:04:22] Thank y'all for tapping in with us. You got a fun fact show for them again a day Dyson when I tell you um

[00:04:26] This real talk topic today

[00:04:28] Shout-out to all the King of Mary folks

[00:04:30] But uh we're gonna we're gonna talk about this thing today, huh?

[00:04:32] Okay, well yeah, let's get into it because we got to talk about these marriage brawl

[00:04:36] Something y'all been brawling like the wfwwe

[00:04:40] You know so we need to have a conversation about why are we why are we doing this and is it beneficial

[00:04:46] And you know ways to kind of you know love each other better

[00:04:50] So this is gonna be a good one for you couples and for you people who aren't a couple yet

[00:04:54] It's good for you to know what you may run up against when you meet your boo

[00:04:58] Mm-hmm, it's gonna be good

[00:05:00] Yeah, it is

[00:05:02] And it's just some people that need to get some things in order so I'm praying for everybody once you listen to it

[00:05:06] Don't just listen to it and don't act on it

[00:05:08] If this is you and we bring up some things some tips

[00:05:12] Some suggestions some toxic behaviors

[00:05:14] Some different things that you might be doing hold yourself accountable

[00:05:18] And again let's get better. I always challenge everybody if you can just hold yourself to a 1% accountability

[00:05:24] For your actions and your response and everything and try to get better from that I promise you the world will be a better place

[00:05:32] It's a better place

[00:05:34] So yeah let's talk about it. King of marriages we're talking about the marriage brawl

[00:05:38] And spiritual detox is a little different the day they only got a

[00:05:42] A certain time that lady who do it all don't you like

[00:05:44] Listen, you got you a mogul on today like she's a writer she's a singer

[00:05:48] She's an entrepreneur a business owner like y'all gonna get this work

[00:05:52] Miss Michelle Williams

[00:05:54] No

[00:05:56] Miss Michelle Elizabeth Williams let me put some respect on her name both my grandmother's names are Elizabeth

[00:06:04] And her name is Michelle Elizabeth Williams so y'all are in for a treat today

[00:06:08] Obviously she's our brothers wonderful wife and God bless them

[00:06:12] He definitely is lucky

[00:06:14] You know I think he skipped the line on getting blessings because I know AJ we love you but

[00:06:20] You got the hook up your wife is amazing so I'm excited to have her offer switch a detox and I'll be rude to her testimony is unmatched

[00:06:28] And that's all I can say like you need to be listening and it's a great testimony it will encourage you

[00:06:32] And it's going down today so keep it locked right here

[00:06:36] Absolutely please keep that thing locked of course you'll know I will have lyrics for the mind too as well

[00:06:42] We got our brother Justin Adams coming with that faith in sports report you know Dice got that news in 90

[00:06:46] So just come on sit back four hours a laughter listen real talk conversations

[00:06:52] Listen all the hottest music and much much more keep it locked you tune into the fix and the fixes in

[00:06:58] I'm Dice Campbell from the fix and this is your news in 90

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[00:08:28] I'm dice gamble and this has been your news in 90

[00:08:31] Yes sir that's that T-Rail with that grateful right there

[00:08:34] And that's my vibe early in the morning because I know I'm grateful

[00:08:37] Thank you Lord for waking me up another blessed blessed day

[00:08:40] Listen if you hear our voice you are blessed you are great you should be grateful

[00:08:45] To wake up another day because you get a chance to go out and be grateful for your Lord saving Jesus Christ

[00:08:50] So we thank you all for having here with us another blessed day

[00:08:53] And come on dice what is the national what day today is

[00:08:57] A-A-A is national corn chip day

[00:08:59] So y'all know those triangular corn chips that you dip into KSO or Salsa today is your day

[00:09:06] Everybody knows about this corn chip and I listen we call it tortilla chips whatever you want to call it

[00:09:12] Yeah this thing has been a whole problem in America since 1932

[00:09:17] You had a Isadour J. filler he was the one who ate a toast out of every warning

[00:09:23] And then a Texas salesman you know he finally realized like if I break this thing up

[00:09:29] And sell it in the smaller rectangles and triangles it might make me a little piece of change

[00:09:33] So he patented the concept in 1932

[00:09:37] So yeah today's your day man put some jalapenos cheese whatever meat

[00:09:41] You like sour cream guac dip it take a picture and a post at hashtag national corn chip day

[00:09:49] Because we love seeing you guys participate in the national days here that's why we keep it up

[00:09:55] Keep letting you know what's day today is this day is this day

[00:09:57] Listen somebody better have a discount or some nachos somewhere to let them know

[00:10:01] Hey y'all need we need a discount today so I encourage you to pull up a national day

[00:10:06] When you wrote that drive they would say what am I discount?

[00:10:10] But focus your pros and cons online you said your wife makes like some that you could put in the oven

[00:10:18] Yeah listen I don't know what it is but it's a magic my wife shout something my wife baby

[00:10:22] If you're listening please the Lord knows if you've got putting your spirit

[00:10:26] You know I think I just put a bug in your spirit it's something yeah she hits she hits

[00:10:30] The nachos laid out and she makes this type of like cheesy salsa type deal with with the meat the cheese and the bell peppers

[00:10:38] And and a little bit of everything and yeah she put that thing in the oven

[00:10:42] And shoot 25 30 minutes later we got magic on it's going yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah

[00:10:48] Yeah I love the nachos because usually when I go somewhere you know I got a funny eating habit

[00:10:52] So I'm not eating all kinds of meat but typically when you go to the basketball games or outdoor football games or whatever

[00:10:58] It always has nachos yeah always so it's like it's just the easy go to and it's always delicious

[00:11:04] It's like the grief all the way it ain't is it the cheese ain't hot

[00:11:08] Only way only way it's not that not all that but other than that yeah so could you get some

[00:11:12] Quarantips today y'all

[00:11:14] You know what and it's funny because they even stepped them up I know I went to some games a few

[00:11:18] Years ago high school games and they have the not only do they have the cheese with it

[00:11:22] But they have the other side you can get like pico

[00:11:24] Oh yeah pico de gallo

[00:11:26] Listen that yeah yeah yeah yeah that was fire and it all day likes the white case so with the peppers

[00:11:32] Yeah I don't know but it's it is good that and even just the salsa man like we'll sit here and watch a game

[00:11:38] And tear it through a bag with a whole jar of sauces nothing so yeah those chips yeah they changed my life

[00:11:44] And here's a deal yeah

[00:11:46] Salsa with corn chips turns out to be healthy and doesn't have that many calories so those of you who are watching your weight today

[00:11:53] Go for it

[00:11:55] Mm-hmm and they got all type of little dips too as well

[00:11:58] Shouts out to that I eat this a black bean and corn like salsa like little dip situation

[00:12:03] Mm-hmm that I eat with some corn chips or some of the other little crackers

[00:12:07] You know a little a little healthy crackers so yeah shots out to my wife and I we trying to eat a little bit better

[00:12:13] We're trying to get here we're trying to have healthy snacks

[00:12:15] Yeah I got this well not you have a not just as a healthy snack so go for it

[00:12:19] Absolutely listen don't touch that down coming up next hour come on now we're gonna get a one of the

[00:12:25] A moko on the list Michelle Elizabeth Williams will be joining us. She's on her third singer

[00:12:31] Let's see you all you know own radio stations to listen they do it all her husband

[00:12:35] Yeah she coming to share her fake story or testimony talk about her new book so keep it locked for that

[00:12:41] And come on our brother Justin Adams is coming with that faith in sports report so keep it locked

[00:12:47] And it fixes in I'm Justin Adams and this is your defix faith it sports report Super Bowl 58 is set

[00:12:53] And it will be a rematch of Super Bowl 54 as the Kansas City Chiefs will defend their crown

[00:12:59] Against the San Francisco 49ers but before we get to how both teams got to the Super Bowl

[00:13:04] Let's get to our scripts versus of the day and this comes from James 4 versus 14 through 17

[00:13:10] It says this how do you know what your life will be like tomorrow?

[00:13:14] Your life is like a morning fog it's here a little while then it's gone

[00:13:18] What you ought to say is if the Lord wants us to we will live and do this or that

[00:13:24] Otherwise you are boasting about your own pretentious plan and all such boasting is evil

[00:13:31] Remember it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it again

[00:13:37] That's James 4 versus 14 through 17 alright let's get to the games in the NFL from yesterday

[00:13:42] And we start off in the AFC championship game and just what you thought that it was Lamar Jackson's year to get to the Super Bowl

[00:13:49] Patrick Mahomes says not today

[00:14:13] Thanks to Ian Eagle on the call for Westwood 1 as the Kansas City Chiefs go on the road

[00:14:18] and upset the Baltimore Raven 17 to 10 in the AFC championship game

[00:14:23] The Chiefs will go to their fourth Super Bowl in five years also Patrick Mahomes

[00:14:28] He will look to get his third Super Bowl ring is only his fifth year as a starter

[00:14:33] Man that's impressive as for the Baltimore Ravens it'll be a tough offseason from Lamar Jackson

[00:14:38] He threw for 272 yards and a touchdown but also a costly interception in the Inzo in the fourth quarter

[00:14:46] So the Chiefs they will play in Super Bowl 58 but who would they play early on?

[00:14:50] It looked like they would take on an Detroit Lions

[00:15:08] Thanks to Kevin Harlow on the call for Westwood 1 as the Detroit Lions raced out to a 24 to 7 lead

[00:15:14] Over the San Francisco 49ers at halftime unfortunately for the Lions things change quickly in the second half

[00:15:21] First and 10 numbers say the quarterback loss from his own 25 spins ball tried three

[00:15:27] And I end off to Gibbs it's lose it's a fumble the Tigers have recovered

[00:15:34] The 49ers rally back to beat the Lions 34 to 31 in the AFC championship game

[00:15:40] The 49ers outscored the Lions 27 to 7 in the second half

[00:15:45] Brock Pertey threw for 267 yards one touchdown and one interception Christian McCaffrey ran 20 times for 90 yards and two touchdowns

[00:15:54] So Super Bowl 58 is set and it will take place in Las Vegas on February 11th

[00:15:59] Rapid of things in the NBA won Detroit team at least won today

[00:16:03] That's the good news and it was the Detroit Pistons they win their fifth game of the year as they routed the Oklahoma City Thunder

[00:16:09] 120 to 104 the Indiana Pacers get past the Memphis Grizzlies 116 to 110 the Atlanta Hawks won up the Toronto Raptors

[00:16:18] 126 to 125 Devon Booker scored 44 points

[00:16:22] But it wasn't enough as the Orlando Magic get past the Phoenix Suns 113 to 98 and the Chicago Bulls beat the Portland Trouble

[00:16:31] It's 104 to 96 I'm Justin Adams this is me here to fix fake in sports report not back to DJ focus at dice gamble as the fix is it

[00:16:40] Welcome back welcome back DJ focus dice gamble you tap back into the fix listen this time for our spiritual detox

[00:16:46] We're in for a treat today, you know we get a chance to you know talk with some of the movers and shakers in the industry

[00:16:52] I feel like since been doing it for a long time. She's a mover and shaker. She's a listen CEO

[00:16:58] She's signed a little bit to as well you know, okay, look look birdie told me she's saying dice you know she got

[00:17:03] Okay, selection is for you too as well if you need to sign but of course she she also is an author to as well

[00:17:10] I'm just super talented and a lot of different areas and like I say been around for a while and listen to a system of ours

[00:17:16] The one and only Michelle Williams is joining us what's going on says hey there how are you?

[00:17:22] Hey, welcome to the show

[00:17:24] Thank you

[00:17:26] Let me say this you know there's a Michelle Williams out there of Destiny's child

[00:17:31] That's Michelle Williams of Destiny's child. I'm Michelle Williams a child that is destined and I love that

[00:17:37] I had to put Elizabeth in the middle because we were always running into each other different events

[00:17:44] So I had to throw Elizabeth in there so Michelle Elizabeth Williams

[00:17:48] I love that. Elizabeth is both my parents

[00:17:51] I'm named and I love and my cousin too, but yeah, I love that

[00:17:56] Okay

[00:17:58] Yeah, that's good. So come on and talk a little bit we got a lot to talk about with you

[00:18:03] But you know share a little bit of your journey

[00:18:05] What's that one thing? You know God has shown you over the years and your fake journey that you were kind of like wow

[00:18:10] You didn't even know that God wanted to show you that

[00:18:13] Basically God just showed me that he could pull me out of the depth of things that I

[00:18:19] Thought I really couldn't get out of I grew up basically in a lot of abuse and because of that abuse

[00:18:26] I suffered a lot of rejection

[00:18:29] And because of that rejection when I went out into the world I look for all types of love from different people

[00:18:37] And I didn't really truly understand until I literally met God

[00:18:42] And when I met God he showed me that like they always say

[00:18:46] Rejection is his protection and I felt like God was hiding me and he was covering me

[00:18:51] And keeping me basically for such a time as this so I can go out and speak to people that have felt rejected

[00:18:58] Knowing that you totally are not rejected

[00:19:02] It's literally God keeping you from a lot of things that you don't need to be involved in

[00:19:09] So what I would say is I feel really really really good that God took out time

[00:19:15] To come and see about me and teach me more about myself

[00:19:20] And don't get so caught up in the rejection because if you're caught up in the rejection

[00:19:24] You'll always live your life as always me

[00:19:27] But God didn't allow me to go through that he pulled me out of that

[00:19:30] And now I look at myself as like wow it's me you know

[00:19:36] Listen you said a lot of things right there you were talking about abuse

[00:19:41] And we were talking about rejection and all those things that come along with it

[00:19:46] But how actually were you introduced to God if I can ask you that

[00:19:50] So if you don't mind can I talk a little bit about my books so I can bring you up to speed is that okay?

[00:19:56] Yeah you're okay

[00:19:58] How many were so at four and five years old I started being sexual molested

[00:20:03] My 14 years old was my last punch in the face by my alcoholic father

[00:20:08] 15 I watched the murder

[00:20:10] By the time I was 20 I had a nervous breakdown

[00:20:13] And at 21 I was being raped on a living room floor at knife point

[00:20:17] By someone who secretly lived in my attic for two months

[00:20:21] I didn't know God in our home we listened to Teddy Pindagraff Stephanie Mills

[00:20:28] Freddie Jackson that was like that was like our go-to

[00:20:32] Because that's what my parents were into we weren't into church

[00:20:35] But then when they did start sending me to a little church

[00:20:38] I was really happy about going but because I was so abused

[00:20:42] I was looking for the first open door that someone would accept me

[00:20:46] And the pastor said I really want you to be my secretary at 13 years old

[00:20:51] And he took me downstairs I went in there and he started talking to me

[00:20:56] And then he grabbed me and tried to kiss me

[00:20:58] But because I have been through so much of that kind of stuff

[00:21:02] I ran out that church door and I didn't go back

[00:21:05] So when God found me he literally had to go deep to get me

[00:21:10] Because my whole life was dark

[00:21:13] And it was to where you couldn't see the forest for the trees

[00:21:17] And you didn't even know what tree was which because it was just that dark

[00:21:22] And the only way I knew God or heard of God was my father was standing at the front door

[00:21:28] And it was a storm

[00:21:30] And as a clouds were passing by and all that, you know, the thunder and lightning going on

[00:21:34] He said everybody down on the floor

[00:21:36] And he had his hands behind his back and all the lights were out

[00:21:39] And he said God is going to come back for his people

[00:21:42] And I'm thinking God, people, he's going to get us and you know the thunder and lightning

[00:21:48] And I was afraid that's how I was introduced to God

[00:21:52] But how I learned about God was I had a really bad left sinus as a child

[00:21:57] And I couldn't breathe and my breathing would cut off

[00:22:00] And my mother would never get off the couch and help me or do anything to take me to the hospital

[00:22:05] When I would stop breathing and one day she said you better get that Bible

[00:22:09] I knew nothing about the Bible

[00:22:11] I knew nothing about the healing, I knew nothing

[00:22:14] And I took the Bible and I went upstairs and I laid there with the Bible on me

[00:22:18] I didn't literally even had a pray

[00:22:20] And I put it on me and I just laid it there and I just rock with it

[00:22:24] And all of a sudden I was able to breathe

[00:22:27] And God was healing me through His Word

[00:22:31] Through the red letters of His Word that I didn't even know

[00:22:35] He was showing up when I didn't know anything about Him

[00:22:38] I wanted to really have a good friend and when I was signing picked up a rock

[00:22:42] And I started talking to the rock every day

[00:22:44] But you'd be my friend, not that the rock would talk back

[00:22:47] Not even knowing what I was doing is

[00:22:50] Talking to the rock but the rock was Jesus Christ that I was leaning on

[00:22:54] Didn't know these things

[00:22:56] But later on when God literally introduced Himself to me

[00:22:59] I think He went down past the casket because normally you're six feet under

[00:23:03] God went underneath the casket and pulled me out

[00:23:06] And when He did that

[00:23:08] And He showed up and showed Himself real to me

[00:23:11] Nobody to this day can tell me that God is not real

[00:23:16] And He literally taught me everything that I know about Him

[00:23:22] And His love

[00:23:24] And He taught me to forgive my parents

[00:23:26] He taught me to forgive myself

[00:23:29] And He taught me to move on

[00:23:31] And He literally, when they say that song, He touched me

[00:23:34] I promise you He literally did touch me

[00:23:37] And now I'm made whole

[00:23:40] Mmm-mmm-mmm

[00:23:43] That's a lot

[00:23:46] And thank you for sharing

[00:23:47] Yes

[00:23:49] I do want to ask

[00:23:51] Was it tough for you to go and seek any

[00:23:54] You know, the counseling or any type of therapy

[00:23:58] Going through everything you went through

[00:24:00] Like walk us through

[00:24:02] If you even did that and what was that process like because

[00:24:05] I can only imagine you know, the stuff that you just said

[00:24:08] That's stuff happened to me

[00:24:10] I don't know where I would be

[00:24:12] So just bring us up this piece

[00:24:14] If you have had some counseling to deal with the past childhood traumas

[00:24:18] And what that looks like

[00:24:20] Yes, so you know like in our culture

[00:24:24] What goes on in this house stays in this house

[00:24:27] So we're getting a crap beat out of us

[00:24:29] And I would try to tell the school nurse

[00:24:32] And she came home with me one day

[00:24:35] And we were telling my mother what I had told

[00:24:38] And when they put my father out for the two weeks

[00:24:41] He came back and he beat the brakes off of me

[00:24:43] So I wasn't able to speak

[00:24:46] And because of that

[00:24:48] I kept everything in size

[00:24:50] By the time I was 20, I did have that nervous breakdown

[00:24:52] And one day I was on an altar

[00:24:55] And I was just crying in my 20s

[00:24:58] And it was a sister on her

[00:25:00] She said, I didn't know you were going through all these things

[00:25:02] And at that moment I learned that I needed to speak

[00:25:05] I needed to talk

[00:25:06] So my first form of therapy was

[00:25:08] Write things down

[00:25:10] I just started writing stuff down

[00:25:12] It was like I was emptying my soul out on paper

[00:25:15] And then after I got enough courage to speak

[00:25:19] I started speaking to a psychologist that was

[00:25:23] She wasn't a psychiatrist but she was a master

[00:25:25] She had a master's in psychology

[00:25:27] So I would speak to her

[00:25:29] And she would help me understand and break things down

[00:25:32] And yes, that was my therapy

[00:25:34] And then I got into church with someone

[00:25:37] That would literally help me through the things

[00:25:40] That I was going through

[00:25:41] So it was writing

[00:25:44] Yes, it was basically a therapist

[00:25:46] And it was church

[00:25:48] It was a sense of community that I needed

[00:25:50] Because when you're abused

[00:25:52] It's almost like you are secluded

[00:25:54] In this little round bubble

[00:25:57] And you're not allowed to tell what's going on in the bubble

[00:26:00] But one day that bubble was popped

[00:26:02] And when it popped

[00:26:03] This is what I realized

[00:26:04] You don't have to tell who did what they did to you

[00:26:08] You just have to tell the truth that happened to you

[00:26:11] You get what I'm saying

[00:26:13] A lot of people are afraid to tell

[00:26:15] Because they feel like

[00:26:17] If I tell it's going to hurt my mom

[00:26:19] It's going to hurt my dad

[00:26:21] And I didn't want to write anything about them

[00:26:23] But I did write what happened to me

[00:26:25] And the freedom was

[00:26:27] You didn't have to put people's names down

[00:26:29] You just have to write your truth

[00:26:35] I know

[00:26:36] There's a lot

[00:26:37] And I got so many more questions I want to ask you

[00:26:39] Listen, DJ Focus Dice Gamble

[00:26:41] We have Michelle Elizabeth Williams on

[00:26:44] We got to go to a break

[00:26:46] We coming back with more

[00:26:47] Don't touch that down

[00:26:48] Keep it locked

[00:26:49] You tuned into the fix

[00:26:50] And the fix is in

[00:26:51] Welcome back

[00:26:52] Welcome back

[00:26:53] DJ Focus Dice Gamble

[00:26:54] We still got a listen

[00:26:55] It's super talented and mogul on

[00:26:57] Michelle Elizabeth Williams don't we Dice?

[00:27:00] Yeah we do

[00:27:01] And she has been sharing her heart

[00:27:03] And her story

[00:27:04] And it is definitely a touching

[00:27:06] Impactful one

[00:27:07] And I will say

[00:27:09] Sadly enough one out of three women

[00:27:11] Experience some type of abuse

[00:27:13] Or misshandling that you have been discussing with us

[00:27:16] Definitely coming from homes

[00:27:18] That had different forms of abuse in it

[00:27:21] What would you share with

[00:27:23] Like I listen to her

[00:27:24] Who's actually listening to your story right now

[00:27:26] Like and they're like

[00:27:28] Man, I am stuck in this type of situation

[00:27:31] Like what is the first step

[00:27:33] That they could even actually take

[00:27:35] To maybe start to make a turn

[00:27:38] You know, them realizing like I'm here

[00:27:40] And I don't want to be here anymore

[00:27:42] I would say the first step

[00:27:44] Would be acknowledgement

[00:27:45] I remember going to

[00:27:48] I remember going to one of these meetings one time

[00:27:52] And when I got there

[00:27:54] The lady that said to me

[00:27:56] The best thing I can tell you is

[00:27:58] And this is a situation that I was in

[00:28:00] I've got myself into a bad situation

[00:28:03] She said leave him

[00:28:05] That's going to be your best bet

[00:28:07] And I looked at her like she was crazy

[00:28:10] Like how dare you tell me to leave him

[00:28:12] Why would you say that?

[00:28:13] And I felt like she was coming against

[00:28:16] Everything that I was almost like Tina Turner

[00:28:18] Like no, I can't leave

[00:28:20] Because if I leave it will look like

[00:28:22] What I've been through

[00:28:24] But when I did get up

[00:28:26] And I left

[00:28:28] That was

[00:28:29] It was like the most liberating thing that I could ever have done for myself

[00:28:35] My family

[00:28:37] So what I would tell someone is

[00:28:39] Acknowledge what you're going through first

[00:28:42] Get out as soon as possible

[00:28:45] Get yourself some therapy

[00:28:47] And get on the right track

[00:28:49] And whatever it would take for safety for you

[00:28:52] No matter what that safety is, get to it

[00:28:55] It would be like you out there

[00:28:57] And in the middle of the sea

[00:28:59] And someone throws you

[00:29:01] That little life thing

[00:29:03] The little float

[00:29:05] But you don't take it

[00:29:07] You keep pushing it away

[00:29:09] When God is trying to save your life

[00:29:11] You have to jump out there

[00:29:13] And you have to hold on to it

[00:29:15] I don't care if your body's flipping upside down

[00:29:17] Your head is bobbing up

[00:29:18] You have to understand that there is a lifeline there to help you

[00:29:22] Therapy is lifeline

[00:29:24] If you have to go to shelters

[00:29:26] They are lifeline

[00:29:28] You have to go to someone that you can trust

[00:29:30] There has to be someone that you can reach out to

[00:29:34] To get out of anything that you're in

[00:29:36] Because if you don't

[00:29:38] You're going to stay

[00:29:40] And like I say, when you stay you pay

[00:29:42] But it's how you want to get paid

[00:29:46] How do you want to get paid?

[00:29:48] No, that's good

[00:29:50] Why do you think so many women stay

[00:29:52] And these toxic and these abusive relationships

[00:29:56] Do you think it's because of fear?

[00:29:58] Is it a mental thing?

[00:30:00] Yeah, I do

[00:30:02] I think a lot of times

[00:30:04] We could just name a number of things

[00:30:06] Daddy issues

[00:30:08] Because they didn't have their daddy

[00:30:10] They need a man to be there

[00:30:12] No matter what that looks like

[00:30:14] So they'll say for daddy issues

[00:30:16] Yes, fear is one of the number one things

[00:30:18] That people will stay because they're afraid

[00:30:20] Because when people words are so powerful

[00:30:24] If someone says to you

[00:30:26] I will kill you and yours

[00:30:28] If you leave me

[00:30:30] That messes with people's mental

[00:30:32] And they feel like

[00:30:34] What if he does kill me

[00:30:36] I've been watching TV and people do

[00:30:38] So people get caught up in fear

[00:30:40] And they don't leave

[00:30:42] And sadly to say

[00:30:44] I just had a 31 year old girl

[00:30:48] The boyfriend

[00:30:50] Beat her so bad

[00:30:52] And he's stabbed her and he went hung himself

[00:30:54] And all I was thinking to myself

[00:30:56] Was God, if I were to know

[00:30:58] And I would have told her

[00:31:00] I hate to say

[00:31:02] Get him arrested now

[00:31:04] Just get out of there

[00:31:06] When my father was beating me back when I was a young girl

[00:31:08] I would tell a young girl

[00:31:10] Now you don't have to take those punches in the face

[00:31:12] You don't have to be beat down with the sticks

[00:31:14] You know

[00:31:16] Without now

[00:31:18] You have to tell somebody

[00:31:20] And the thing is people don't like to bring their families down

[00:31:22] Or the people they love

[00:31:24] Because people may not believe them

[00:31:26] Or they don't want to see

[00:31:28] Maybe uncles

[00:31:30] Such and such go down

[00:31:32] Because of what they're doing to you

[00:31:34] But you know what? It's your life

[00:31:36] And if you don't

[00:31:38] Sometimes save your own life

[00:31:40] Your very life can be taken from you

[00:31:42] And I'm not talking about sift it from the earth

[00:31:44] But living as a dead person in the earth

[00:31:46] Because you're afraid to talk about it

[00:31:48] So I'm afraid to tell somebody

[00:31:52] Oh I'm afraid to tell somebody

[00:31:54] Oh I'm afraid to tell somebody

[00:31:56] Yeah but a snitch

[00:31:58] Snitch and go

[00:32:00] Snitch and not bad if you know

[00:32:02] I think it's going mentally

[00:32:04] Yeah, even they don't like snitching is so bad

[00:32:06] But honestly

[00:32:08] You know

[00:32:10] If I could go back to

[00:32:12] Time right now

[00:32:14] I would literally snitch a little more

[00:32:16] You know why? Because

[00:32:18] I wouldn't have my

[00:32:20] Places on my body that are busted up

[00:32:22] Yeah, I wouldn't have been busted up like that

[00:32:24] You know

[00:32:26] A lot of things wouldn't have happened to me

[00:32:28] If I would have took the step

[00:32:30] To go a little bit further

[00:32:32] But I stopped at Nurse Johnson

[00:32:34] Wow

[00:32:38] Yes, definitely stopped at Nurse Johnson

[00:32:40] We got to talk a little bit about this music

[00:32:42] Before we get you out of here

[00:32:44] Come on, come on and talk about you know

[00:32:46] When did your musical career start for you

[00:32:48] Like why did you get in to even do a music

[00:32:50] Still when I was a little girl

[00:32:52] I just go up in my room

[00:32:54] And just play music because the abuse was so bad in my house

[00:32:56] You know

[00:32:58] Having an alcoholic father

[00:33:00] Coming and beating my mother

[00:33:02] And my mother fighting him

[00:33:04] And the house was so chaotic

[00:33:06] You know all the time

[00:33:08] I was like refuge

[00:33:10] My place of solace was going in my room

[00:33:12] Putting a little record player on

[00:33:14] And just playing these songs

[00:33:16] It wasn't even church songs

[00:33:18] It was music

[00:33:20] Music just minister to me

[00:33:22] So I would try to sing

[00:33:24] You know, I was in a little

[00:33:26] School plays and things like that

[00:33:28] But then when I got older

[00:33:30] You know, I started writing songs

[00:33:32] And one of the songs I wrote was

[00:33:34] I know who I am

[00:33:36] Who I was

[00:33:38] Because basically when you're being beat

[00:33:40] The way you're being beaten

[00:33:42] I was covering in blood so much that

[00:33:44] You can't even recognize me

[00:33:46] All you would see is blood

[00:33:48] You know, somebody else's

[00:33:50] Dirty blood that was on me

[00:33:52] That they hadn't taken care of themselves

[00:33:54] So they were dripping it on me

[00:33:56] And I just, you know, finally when I got myself together

[00:33:58] And washed myself off

[00:34:00] I was like, oh wow

[00:34:02] There is a person in there

[00:34:04] I started singing

[00:34:06] 2002, I put my first CD out

[00:34:10] Creating me a clean heart

[00:34:12] I made it

[00:34:14] And then later on I put out the one

[00:34:16] I know who I am

[00:34:18] So I haven't really been singing a lot

[00:34:20] I wrote the book

[00:34:22] Nobody ever told me

[00:34:24] I don't know if you've seen that

[00:34:26] But nobody ever told me

[00:34:28] And I've been speaking about that

[00:34:30] So what I do is because my passion

[00:34:32] Is still singing

[00:34:34] But it's like when I'm talking

[00:34:36] I'll be singing

[00:34:38] I'll start talking

[00:34:40] So it's like it goes well together

[00:34:44] That's awesome

[00:34:46] That is awesome

[00:34:48] What is the thing that you are most proud of about yourself now?

[00:34:50] You know what

[00:34:52] So I look at my children

[00:34:54] And my oldest daughter will be 38

[00:34:58] And my children are 38

[00:35:02] 36 and 34

[00:35:04] And they have children of their own

[00:35:08] I'm such a great mother

[00:35:10] They came out so good

[00:35:12] You would never think

[00:35:14] That that would come out of me

[00:35:16] No, I grew up in

[00:35:18] But it's like

[00:35:20] I turned the generational curse

[00:35:22] I just flipped it

[00:35:24] And I gave my children what I did not have

[00:35:26] And because I did my grandmother

[00:35:28] She disowned us

[00:35:30] My father was an only child

[00:35:32] And never got to meet my family

[00:35:34] And my mother

[00:35:36] We never met her mother

[00:35:38] And when I first met her father

[00:35:40] The next time I seen him

[00:35:42] We were at his funeral

[00:35:44] So I had no grandparents

[00:35:46] And because we were disowned

[00:35:48] By my grandmother

[00:35:50] My grandchildren

[00:35:52] I mean, when I open my arms

[00:35:54] So what I'm proud of is that

[00:35:56] I am a mother

[00:35:58] I'm a true mother

[00:36:00] I'm a true wife

[00:36:02] I'm a true family person

[00:36:04] I'm a loving grandmother

[00:36:06] And we adopted four boys

[00:36:08] Even though our son was killed

[00:36:10] This year

[00:36:12] He was shot and killed

[00:36:14] Being in someone's backyard

[00:36:16] He was taken away from us

[00:36:18] And that was our only son

[00:36:20] But what I am proud of is

[00:36:22] Very sad for that

[00:36:24] But I'm very proud that we have

[00:36:26] Four

[00:36:28] Boys

[00:36:30] That we've been taking care of over the past six years

[00:36:32] And we adopted them

[00:36:34] And we're raising great men for society

[00:36:36] Some proud that we give back

[00:36:38] I love that

[00:36:40] Yeah, we definitely are condoses to you

[00:36:42] And you're husband to as well

[00:36:44] Thank you

[00:36:46] Before you get out of here

[00:36:48] Come on, y'all got to talk about

[00:36:50] And you're all our media moguls to as well

[00:36:52] Let's talk about the

[00:36:54] All these radio outlets

[00:36:56] It might be somebody a CEO

[00:36:58] Looking to start their own

[00:37:00] Radio platform

[00:37:02] Speak to that a little bit

[00:37:04] Just on how you and your husband set that up

[00:37:06] Yes, so my husband

[00:37:08] He runs the Gospel Hip Hop Awards

[00:37:10] He also has the Radio Network

[00:37:12] N-D-1 Network

[00:37:14] He has 46 stations

[00:37:16] Under him

[00:37:18] With series XM

[00:37:20] Holy co-op

[00:37:22] Yes

[00:37:24] Underground

[00:37:26] Yes, underground hip hop

[00:37:28] He has all these things but

[00:37:30] If anyone would like to even be a part of that

[00:37:32] You know they could reach out to him

[00:37:34] To J William Show

[00:37:36] You could find him anywhere on Google

[00:37:38] J William's 377

[00:37:40] At

[00:37:42] Everything

[00:37:44] Everything this out there is digital you could find him

[00:37:46] But J William's 377 at Yahoo.com

[00:37:50] You could send him some music

[00:37:52] If you want to be a part of his network

[00:37:54] Yes, you can do that

[00:37:56] And yes, I am the supportive wife

[00:37:58] I'm like right behind him whatever he does

[00:38:00] And the thing is

[00:38:02] People see that when people see that

[00:38:04] They think oh it's all the highs

[00:38:06] But being the wife

[00:38:08] You get to see all the loads

[00:38:10] All the in between

[00:38:12] All the nodes

[00:38:14] All the disappointment

[00:38:16] You get to see all of that

[00:38:18] But even in all of that

[00:38:20] I got his back

[00:38:22] 150%

[00:38:24] Watching him grow

[00:38:26] From 2015 to now

[00:38:28] That God is amazing

[00:38:30] And he's an amazing man with great integrity

[00:38:34] And I just love that about him

[00:38:36] Listen Michele

[00:38:38] Yeah, he just always

[00:38:40] Yeah, we appreciate you coming through rocking

[00:38:42] With us come on and tell the people

[00:38:44] How to connect with you

[00:38:46] How they can go where they can go find your book at

[00:38:48] And yeah

[00:38:50] Everything about your entire platform

[00:38:52] Where they can find all the information

[00:38:54] Everything about me is on Michele

[00:38:56] ElizabethWilliams.com

[00:38:58] You'll find everything about me there

[00:39:02] All my social media is linked to just that website

[00:39:06] Oh, and my book

[00:39:10] I don't want to go there

[00:39:12] Nobody

[00:39:14] Nobody ever told me

[00:39:16] Miss Shell Elizabeth Williams

[00:39:18] Amazon.com

[00:39:20] If you google me, I'm on so many engines

[00:39:22] You'll find me anywhere for that book

[00:39:24] We appreciate you coming through kicking it with us

[00:39:26] Thank you

[00:39:28] Thank you

[00:39:30] Absolutely

[00:39:32] We got to go to a quick break

[00:39:34] We coming back with more

[00:39:36] Keep it locked

[00:39:38] Blanca and Jacalyn Carter

[00:39:40] That's that new day wake up

[00:39:42] It's a new day come on Monday morning

[00:39:44] Come on and get up

[00:39:46] And get out here and conquer the world

[00:39:48] Go continue to be a great representation of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ

[00:39:52] Listen, you are a ambassador

[00:39:54] So with that comes a charge each and every day

[00:39:56] So come on continue to show the love of Christ

[00:39:58] And continue to represent

[00:40:00] To the best of your ability

[00:40:02] Because you never know when God want to use you

[00:40:04] On this new day

[00:40:06] Shell south everybody

[00:40:08] Think y'all for waking up and again with us again

[00:40:10] So dice what's going on on these streets

[00:40:12] What we got going on

[00:40:14] Well, let's travel on to France

[00:40:16] You know what I'm saying?

[00:40:18] We have two young ladies who wanted to make a point

[00:40:20] About food security

[00:40:22] Insecurity and things like that

[00:40:24] And they threw some pumpkin soup onto the Mona Lisa

[00:40:28] So the two female demonstrators were caught on video

[00:40:32] You know, in front of Leonardo da Vinci's 16th century portrait

[00:40:36] That hangs at the Louvre in Perry

[00:40:40] And so yeah, people obviously took pictures and filmed and things like that

[00:40:44] But this is like a trend now

[00:40:46] People are popping up in different museums where the artwork is famous

[00:40:50] And they have a huge audience

[00:40:52] So one of the ladies after they threw the soup on there

[00:40:56] She took her jacket off and her shirt

[00:40:58] Had a message that said food response

[00:41:00] So they were yelling like what's more important art

[00:41:04] Or the right to healthy and sustainable food

[00:41:06] So they were just saying how our agricultural system is sick

[00:41:10] And our farmers are dying to work

[00:41:12] And it's true

[00:41:14] You know, I brought this up on a show before

[00:41:16] I'm like we have to start growing our food

[00:41:18] Like 2030 is the year that if you go to these green summits

[00:41:22] You know, and they have them typically like an Iceland

[00:41:26] Greenland and Italy and things like that

[00:41:28] But 2030 is the year where they want to start pushing urban growing

[00:41:32] So if you have any space where you live even if it's a balcony

[00:41:36] Or a backyard front yard

[00:41:38] You're encouraged to start to grow your own food

[00:41:40] We get over 50% of our food from China

[00:41:42] For those of you who do not know

[00:41:44] And so as we continue to, you know

[00:41:46] Come at odds with China

[00:41:48] And other countries like wheat

[00:41:50] A huge majority of our wheat comes from the area of Ukraine

[00:41:56] So it's like you're wondering why prices are increasing

[00:41:58] It's not that your store

[00:42:00] Your local Walmart or your local whole foods

[00:42:02] Want more money is the fact that shipping

[00:42:04] You know, being able to get things on ships

[00:42:06] And get them over here to us

[00:42:08] We're on the island and the people don't even think about that

[00:42:10] Like we over here, you know what I'm saying

[00:42:12] So if it ain't

[00:42:14] You know, coming from Mexico

[00:42:16] Like we got to put that thing on the water

[00:42:18] And right now there's a challenge

[00:42:20] So all right

[00:42:22] I was like, huh

[00:42:24] Okay, these ladies about it

[00:42:26] Now obviously they're gonna get fined

[00:42:28] We know that

[00:42:30] But I love that people take risk to bring awareness

[00:42:32] Like listen

[00:42:34] You guys over here paying

[00:42:36] A ridiculous amount to come see a piece of art

[00:42:38] The thing on the wall from a dead man

[00:42:40] But we actually have people who are dying every single day

[00:42:42] Because of the lack of food

[00:42:44] So yeah

[00:42:46] Wow

[00:42:48] This is different

[00:42:50] So I definitely agree

[00:42:52] I think yes, absolutely

[00:42:54] If they're having issues with food supply

[00:42:56] And vegetables and produce

[00:42:58] Yeah, I get that

[00:43:00] So definitely I think it needs to be

[00:43:02] Something needs to be done

[00:43:04] But

[00:43:06] Oh, Lord help me

[00:43:08] I could just imagine if I own that fancy painting

[00:43:10] Somebody messed it up

[00:43:12] I've just been honest like

[00:43:14] They keep it in cake

[00:43:16] They keep it in cake

[00:43:18] They're in glass

[00:43:20] It doesn't matter

[00:43:22] But people risk their lives

[00:43:24] For other people

[00:43:26] And I'll be real with you

[00:43:28] Because we're in America

[00:43:30] And we rarely see

[00:43:32] People starving

[00:43:34] And I don't know if you've ever been anywhere

[00:43:36] Focus on what you actually see

[00:43:38] Little kids dumb mixed protruding

[00:43:40] And like you know how you used to look on TV

[00:43:42] And you'd be like dang that looks crazy

[00:43:44] Like when you see that real time

[00:43:46] I remember being on one mission trip

[00:43:48] And we were being bottles

[00:43:50] And so we couldn't even brush our teeth

[00:43:52] Or be in the swimming pools

[00:43:54] And things like that

[00:43:56] And I just remember when I got home

[00:43:58] I was just thinking of a water

[00:44:00] I was like thank you for cleaning water

[00:44:02] Like it was like 30 days

[00:44:04] And we just think and got for clean water

[00:44:06] Because whatever you drank

[00:44:08] Like if it wasn't treated

[00:44:10] You know you could potentially

[00:44:12] Really get sick and died

[00:44:14] So yeah, we live over here

[00:44:16] What was that government system over there

[00:44:18] Catching me a phone speed

[00:44:20] How does a system work over there

[00:44:22] Because wouldn't that be more of a

[00:44:24] Their problem like shouldn't

[00:44:26] Be like in front of them

[00:44:28] And complaining and petitioning

[00:44:30] And you know protesting or maybe

[00:44:32] It's not

[00:44:34] Well if you ever been his Ben Yola

[00:44:36] You ever been to

[00:44:38] Africa if you ever been to Haiti

[00:44:40] And especially Port of Prince

[00:44:42] It's aka at the gas station

[00:44:44] So you think you got to roll up

[00:44:46] And have a conversation with somebody

[00:44:48] It don't work like that

[00:44:50] And then obviously with the government

[00:44:52] It's being corrupt

[00:44:54] It's twice as hard

[00:44:56] So it's like people make money

[00:44:58] Like if I have a water company

[00:45:00] I can just roll up to neighborhoods

[00:45:02] And charge

[00:45:04] You know those little water

[00:45:06] The blue ones where people

[00:45:08] They'll change in after the water is done

[00:45:10] They're going to water cooler

[00:45:12] Yeah so it's like

[00:45:14] It's a big deal

[00:45:16] Our quality of life over here is fantastic

[00:45:18] As compared to other places

[00:45:20] And so we really do need to be grateful

[00:45:22] Thank God each and every day

[00:45:24] That we can just go too a faucet

[00:45:26] And turn it on

[00:45:28] And it's real

[00:45:30] That's real

[00:45:32] We definitely pray for them

[00:45:34] Absolutely because yes

[00:45:36] We want them to be able to

[00:45:38] Have everything that they need to have

[00:45:40] And then they can also clean water

[00:45:42] And stuff like that

[00:45:44] Everybody should have that

[00:45:46] I'm going to agree with that

[00:45:48] Alright coming up

[00:45:50] Don't touch that down next up

[00:45:52] Oh yeah, man Dice about to have this real conversation

[00:45:54] Shouts out to all the king of marriages out there

[00:45:56] We talking about it today

[00:45:58] Marriage bros

[00:46:00] How to fight fair

[00:46:02] You know the right way

[00:46:04] And when you talk about none domestic either

[00:46:06] So if anybody struggling in that area

[00:46:08] Don't stop you don't know me

[00:46:10] Smacking your husband around definitely don't be smacking your wife around

[00:46:12] That ain't that ain't no this ain't a box of match

[00:46:16] And that way

[00:46:18] Now shots out there

[00:46:20] Everybody going in the bedroom and boxing a little bit

[00:46:22] Yeah

[00:46:24] Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah

[00:46:26] As granddaddy was saying go in there

[00:46:28] And they'll come up that room till you figure out what shit like

[00:46:30] Figure it out

[00:46:32] That's a different type of fight

[00:46:34] That's a good fight

[00:46:36] That's a good fight

[00:46:38] That's hilarious

[00:46:40] Keep it locked

[00:46:42] You tuned into the fix

[00:46:44] Welcome back

[00:46:46] Welcome back DJ focus Dice gamble

[00:46:48] You tap back into the fix

[00:46:50] Your source of f***ing diffused

[00:46:52] Hip hop R&B and poetry

[00:46:54] It's time to get really nice trees Dice

[00:46:56] And oh we

[00:46:58] We gonna make some people mad today

[00:47:00] I listen thank y'all

[00:47:02] The full disclaimer

[00:47:04] About these things I feel like we're called to fix for a reason

[00:47:06] And I think we have unique experience

[00:47:08] In some of these situations

[00:47:10] And I think it needs to be talked about a lot more

[00:47:12] So yeah come on Dice this is yours

[00:47:14] We talked topic

[00:47:16] You know what you threw it out there

[00:47:18] I was like well let's just go on a roll

[00:47:20] What is the end roll with the marriage brawl

[00:47:22] Marriage brawl

[00:47:24] So listen those of you who aren't married

[00:47:26] Don't dip off right now

[00:47:28] Because we might give you a little tip today to help you

[00:47:30] When you get ready to get married

[00:47:32] Couple

[00:47:34] In the middle of a brawl

[00:47:36] So I think I think the first thing we got to unpack

[00:47:40] When we talk about marriage brawls

[00:47:42] Listen communication 101

[00:47:46] A lot of marriage brawls happen

[00:47:48] Because of

[00:47:50] Listen not understanding how to properly communicate to each other

[00:47:54] Yeah when you talk about toxic

[00:47:56] Toxic communication oh my goodness

[00:47:58] Shots out to all my cut

[00:48:00] And I know a lot of people

[00:48:02] You know that you know still getting the car after service

[00:48:04] And they daughter they grandson or maybe they husband and wife

[00:48:08] And they got all the bleep words

[00:48:10] The bleep words

[00:48:12] Yeah the bleep words the stronger

[00:48:14] Aggression one too as well

[00:48:16] You know something is you know mother something

[00:48:18] And you know I'm saying B.I

[00:48:20] You know I'm saying just get really aggressive

[00:48:22] And I think

[00:48:24] I think we have a lot of people

[00:48:26] And I think we have a lot of people

[00:48:28] And I think a lot of times

[00:48:30] Doesn't be very clear depending on where you how you were raised

[00:48:34] These things trigger emotions

[00:48:38] A lot of times

[00:48:40] Shouts out to all the kingdom ladies who understand that yes

[00:48:44] Y'all have powerful words and on y'all tongue

[00:48:48] And sometimes y'all provoke these arguments

[00:48:50] These heated

[00:48:52] We call them heated uh heated conversations in my house

[00:48:54] Yeah yeah we call them

[00:48:56] Yeah yeah we call them heated

[00:48:58] Embatables

[00:49:00] He didn't fellowship

[00:49:02] Forgive me heated fellowship

[00:49:04] Sometimes on wife and I have to have heated fellowship

[00:49:06] So yes but one thing we learned is early

[00:49:10] Because yes we were some of those cousins

[00:49:12] Say it's where we cut each other out

[00:49:14] We call everything about the sun

[00:49:16] And uh it was it was not helpful because of course you know

[00:49:18] Me being a man you ain't gonna say that B word

[00:49:20] But one more time and I promise you

[00:49:22] I'm listening I promise you

[00:49:24] I like to go to violence to ladies

[00:49:26] But you that's be very clear

[00:49:28] That one I ain't

[00:49:30] Ain't no six eight dude out in the streets calling me that

[00:49:32] So listen I only become home to my household and be called that

[00:49:36] So yeah yeah out to gate I had to go there out to gate

[00:49:38] Because I think a lot of people are not communicating properly diced

[00:49:40] And that's the problem when we talk about marriage brawls

[00:49:44] Yeah well yeah

[00:49:46] Well I would say communication is the problem

[00:49:48] If there's a brawl I really don't think there's any other issue

[00:49:52] And down to I lack a communication

[00:49:54] So either somebody did something they weren't supposed to do

[00:49:56] Or did something they didn't tell the other person they was gonna do

[00:49:58] Or you know

[00:50:00] Did something to be vindictive

[00:50:02] You know what I mean? But I think the issue behind it is there was zero understanding

[00:50:06] So now I'm just acting out of my feelings

[00:50:10] The things I never do

[00:50:12] What I saw growing up, how I saw my father treat my mother

[00:50:14] And my mother treat my father

[00:50:16] Or you know what the advice was for my grandmother

[00:50:18] Just all of it

[00:50:20] And some of it is horrible advice

[00:50:22] I don't forget my dad one time was telling me

[00:50:24] He said

[00:50:26] I can see he got some advice from my grandmother

[00:50:28] And it was pretty much a aggressive advice towards my mom

[00:50:32] And that was kind of shocked because I'm like what

[00:50:34] Now I was really thinking

[00:50:36] My grandmother knew who my mother was

[00:50:38] She would have never said that

[00:50:40] So um

[00:50:42] But none of no

[00:50:44] There are marriage brawls going on out there

[00:50:46] Some of y'all plan these brawls too

[00:50:48] And have the same braw

[00:50:50] Like this is now it's toxic

[00:50:52] You know I think if it goes more than 24 hours it's toxic

[00:50:54] I think I'll give you a day to get over a situation

[00:50:58] I'll give you that

[00:51:00] But we're not gonna be stuck on this all week

[00:51:02] We can't be stuck on it all week

[00:51:04] Because we're never gonna come to an agreement of how to fix the issue

[00:51:06] So I'm laughing because I'm like

[00:51:08] Man I think we spent the first

[00:51:10] You know

[00:51:12] Nine years of being married

[00:51:14] Like planning the bra

[00:51:16] Like oh I know he don't like this

[00:51:18] Or I know she don't like that soul

[00:51:20] I'm not gonna do that or I am gonna do that

[00:51:22] And I don't care if she's mad

[00:51:24] And it's so corny because you wasted so much time

[00:51:26] Like you know you could have been working on a solution

[00:51:30] Instead of just judging and just being irritated

[00:51:32] And refusing to communicate

[00:51:34] Or come to an agreement or you know meeting halfway

[00:51:36] It's what we call it in therapy

[00:51:38] Meeting each other halfway

[00:51:40] So yeah these marriage brawls in marriages

[00:51:42] Just stupid

[00:51:44] I'm glad you brought up that key phrase

[00:51:46] You absolutely meet me halfway

[00:51:48] That's the problem

[00:51:50] We live in a selfish world where everybody just won't stay

[00:51:52] Wait, now you know meet me halfway

[00:51:54] This is what it should be

[00:51:56] You told the goal with what I say

[00:51:58] What you say is dumb

[00:52:00] What you say is stupid

[00:52:02] Like yeah we use those red words

[00:52:04] Yeah yeah I'm gonna use the red words

[00:52:06] Cause I know a lot of y'all are illusion

[00:52:08] Right now yeah yeah we got red words in our house

[00:52:10] Do as well

[00:52:12] Cussing and cussing and you know some words like dumb, stupid, idiot, retard, yeah, talk you know

[00:52:13] Disrespecting nobody

[00:52:15] Just using these words cause these are choice words

[00:52:17] That we know are being used when we communicate

[00:52:21] To your point I'm glad you brought up a key point

[00:52:23] Who we shout out to all the ladies out there

[00:52:27] They know how to push the button

[00:52:29] Oh my every

[00:52:31] Every night then when y'all wants to

[00:52:33] Y'all can be petty and y'all know y'all get about our skin

[00:52:35] And y'all do it on purpose

[00:52:37] Because I think y'all

[00:52:39] I feel like this is the only way I can kind of

[00:52:41] Ruffer his feathers and kind of bring him off his high horse and what I don't know what it is

[00:52:45] And we ain't even don't know how it leaves me

[00:52:47] I'm just being honest, I ain't even don't know how it's

[00:52:49] But just in general yeah my wife she gonna keep it honest

[00:52:51] Shout out to my wife I love her to death

[00:52:53] I wouldn't do life with nobody else

[00:52:55] But yes she's the only one that can really take me there

[00:52:59] And give her my skin

[00:53:01] And she know it too as well

[00:53:03] Shout out she used to do it a lot

[00:53:05] Again when we were young in our marriage

[00:53:07] And kind of growing and learning each other

[00:53:09] And we don't have these hard conversations

[00:53:11] I think you have to move on

[00:53:13] And to your point the therapy part

[00:53:15] On both ends we both have seeked some counseling

[00:53:19] Also just some classes again I talk about the community so much

[00:53:23] Shout out to everybody who are part of a church who has life groups

[00:53:27] That can help you never know when you need to get into the grief program

[00:53:29] Or you might need to get into the man

[00:53:31] The man lifestyle

[00:53:35] What does it call it?

[00:53:37] The man verse man is what the course is called at my church

[00:53:39] But it teaches a man on how to not only live a lifestyle

[00:53:43] Please God but also just a holistic man

[00:53:47] And everything that goes into that

[00:53:49] So like I got so many points from that

[00:53:51] That maybe I didn't get from my pops or my uncles

[00:53:53] Or my grandfather or somebody else

[00:53:55] That helped me and developed me as a man

[00:53:57] So it's self-development individually first

[00:53:59] And then coming to that relationship

[00:54:03] That's when you gotta show up and show out

[00:54:05] To everybody that's gonna start today

[00:54:07] Not being toxic and communicating

[00:54:09] And being disrespected

[00:54:11] Start today that's good

[00:54:13] Listen to me

[00:54:15] You're hearing this fresh word right now Dice

[00:54:17] What better day than right now then

[00:54:19] You know you hear the fresh word

[00:54:21] Yeah I mean we talk about it all the time

[00:54:23] I have my husband and I obviously

[00:54:25] We're the best of friends now

[00:54:27] And we don't even care anymore

[00:54:29] I mean honestly when one is tripping

[00:54:31] And it's funny because I remember watching older couples

[00:54:33] And I remember being tripping and the other one would just be totally at peace

[00:54:35] Like they'll be alright in a minute

[00:54:37] Like I think we've nailed that part now

[00:54:39] They just like leave it alone

[00:54:41] Let me process and have my time

[00:54:43] And then I'll get back to you

[00:54:45] And you know we have the saying that

[00:54:47] You're not my enemy

[00:54:49] And here's the deal, you wouldn't want to keep

[00:54:51] Enduring the person you're with

[00:54:53] Because now you're gonna be with a hurt person

[00:54:55] You know what I'm saying? So it's like

[00:54:57] It doesn't make sense to just throw a jab or arrow all week

[00:54:59] It's like man so we're married

[00:55:01] You know what I'm saying? You don't want to have a week

[00:55:03] Broken down partner

[00:55:05] You want to build that partner up

[00:55:07] And if that's your partner

[00:55:09] And as we say over here like we're friends

[00:55:11] So I want you to be alright

[00:55:13] You know what I mean?

[00:55:15] Like so I want the best for you

[00:55:17] So you should want the best for your mate

[00:55:19] And I think a lot of these marriages

[00:55:21] They just crumlin' in there

[00:55:23] Falling apart is because you're not even looking at your mate as your friend

[00:55:25] So it's like y'all should be friends

[00:55:27] You know you should want to help each other get better

[00:55:29] Not just want something from the person

[00:55:31] But want them to actually grow

[00:55:33] And get better

[00:55:35] You know like you guys have said yes and I do

[00:55:37] And this is forever so you are now

[00:55:39] Responsible for the other person

[00:55:41] Literally responsible for them

[00:55:43] So yeah, we gotta have a little more care

[00:55:45] You know in a marriage

[00:55:47] And I think when there's no love

[00:55:49] And this is crazy because I mean people

[00:55:51] Once you get in love you're in love

[00:55:53] No you're not

[00:55:55] You will fall out of love at the given moment

[00:55:57] Don't don't don't fool yourself

[00:55:59] Like you can find yourself waking up one day

[00:56:01] Where you like I literally hate this person and don't want to be with them anymore

[00:56:03] I really am trying to find a way out of this

[00:56:07] Because you're so stuck in your pride

[00:56:09] And you're like man maybe I made a mistake

[00:56:11] But it's like if you go back

[00:56:13] And you really listen to God's voice

[00:56:15] You know you didn't make a mistake

[00:56:17] You just try to run

[00:56:19] So it's like hey don't need to run

[00:56:21] You found you somebody you could be with forever

[00:56:23] It's a gift so you should want to

[00:56:25] You can as best you can

[00:56:27] So yeah and assume positive intent

[00:56:29] When people do stuff you know like it's like

[00:56:31] Maybe they didn't mean to offend me

[00:56:33] Maybe they didn't think to check the bank first

[00:56:35] Maybe they didn't mean to leave such a such a daycare

[00:56:37] You know like you gotta be like

[00:56:39] Man maybe they tired

[00:56:41] You know what I'm saying? Maybe they aren't going through a lot of work

[00:56:43] And give people some grace

[00:56:45] But because you live with folk

[00:56:47] And you know where they're weak or where they're lazy

[00:56:49] It's easy to kind of throw that out there

[00:56:51] When you're in the middle of an argument

[00:56:53] When you're in the middle of a war and that's unfair

[00:56:55] So unfair

[00:56:57] Very unfair

[00:56:59] So on top we've already talked about

[00:57:01] Listen make sure when you talk about

[00:57:03] Communicating practice patients

[00:57:05] Because you do have to have patient

[00:57:07] To hear your spouse out

[00:57:09] You just talked about

[00:57:11] Oh my goodness speaking truth and love

[00:57:13] Just to emphasize

[00:57:15] Four or fifteen

[00:57:17] Communicate with honest and love

[00:57:19] Express your feelings sincerely

[00:57:21] But with the spirit of compassion

[00:57:23] You also brought that up guys

[00:57:25] Definitely

[00:57:27] We have compassion for your mate

[00:57:29] Make sure that you hear them out

[00:57:31] And another thing before we go to this quick break

[00:57:33] Oh my goodness

[00:57:35] We want one with ears

[00:57:37] Shout out to everybody who really want to listen

[00:57:39] Yeah

[00:57:41] Shout out to everybody who's not looking to respond back

[00:57:43] But it's looking to

[00:57:45] Hear what your spouse is saying

[00:57:47] And then be able to make sure you just do what they ask

[00:57:51] What you think should be done

[00:57:53] Because we got a lot of people out there

[00:57:55] There's always doing it their way

[00:57:57] And thinking their ways the only way

[00:57:59] No, it's okay

[00:58:01] It's a compromise

[00:58:03] Listen we're talking about the marriage brawl

[00:58:05] We gotta go to a break

[00:58:07] We coming right back or more

[00:58:09] Keep it locked

[00:58:11] You tuned it to the fix

[00:58:13] And the fix is in

[00:58:15] Welcome back. We're going back DJ focus

[00:58:16] You know, talking about marriage brawls

[00:58:18] And how to communicate proper

[00:58:20] And make sure you're having

[00:58:22] Got any domestic situations

[00:58:24] And just doing stuff for all out of pocket

[00:58:26] I think we gotta talk about setting boundaries

[00:58:28] I think a lot of people are not setting boundaries

[00:58:32] They are all out of pocket dice

[00:58:34] You know they are just what is you doing

[00:58:36] Come on just slow down a little bit

[00:58:38] I think setting boundaries for effective communication

[00:58:42] We need to do and I think a lot of people

[00:58:44] But whatever reason don't sit down

[00:58:46] And just have a real heart to heart on

[00:58:48] Things that you do like and things you don't like when

[00:58:52] Maybe your spouse says something

[00:58:54] Or how they communicate to you

[00:58:56] It's not super meant

[00:58:58] I know men sometimes can be really aggressive

[00:59:00] And when you listen to her wives

[00:59:02] They go through a lot. They do a lot

[00:59:04] So some days you can't come in all

[00:59:06] Gun hole and talking to all

[00:59:08] And you know loud and

[00:59:10] It's like Tony bro, Tony down

[00:59:12] Just to breathe a little bit

[00:59:14] Just breathe you know

[00:59:16] For all my breathing exercise people out there

[00:59:18] They need to do that to just kind of calm

[00:59:20] They nurse so that way they can

[00:59:22] Just have a conversation

[00:59:24] Listen I told you I've been real there

[00:59:26] It's all type of ways now

[00:59:28] You go from 0 to 10 real quick

[00:59:30] You ain't gotta go to 10

[00:59:32] You can just go from maybe 0 to about a soft 4

[00:59:34] And leave it at that soft 4

[00:59:36] And know that this is your friend

[00:59:38] Like you said guys, this is your friend

[00:59:40] This is your lover, this is your spouse

[00:59:42] This is your companion

[00:59:44] Y'all on the same team

[00:59:46] Why are you talking like

[00:59:48] This is somebody out in the streets

[00:59:50] And you want to put holy hands

[00:59:52] Wow

[00:59:54] You know what? It's funny that you say that

[00:59:56] Because I honestly my husband

[00:59:58] I love him dearly

[01:00:00] But sometimes if he comes home with that

[01:00:02] I'm like okay so you didn't take that back to work

[01:00:04] Cause I didn't do nothing to you

[01:00:06] And then he just kind of comes down

[01:00:08] And I'm sorry, I'm sorry

[01:00:10] But you really need to learn

[01:00:12] How your other communicates

[01:00:16] Because I don't know

[01:00:18] My communication is when I get quiet

[01:00:20] That's the problem

[01:00:22] So some people like

[01:00:24] If you're just now getting married

[01:00:26] And a person gets quiet on you

[01:00:28] You might not realize

[01:00:30] That they are absolutely perturbed

[01:00:32] And that's me, that's how everybody knows

[01:00:34] Everybody knows

[01:00:36] Because I'm usually

[01:00:38] Up, bubbly, chatty

[01:00:40] And then when I shut that down

[01:00:42] Yeah I'm just plotting

[01:00:44] Like I'm literally plotting in my head

[01:00:46] What's gonna happen next

[01:00:48] And it might involve you ducking

[01:00:50] From dishes, I don't know

[01:00:52] But you don't want me to get quiet

[01:00:54] So with the way you learn

[01:00:56] That ain't a frisbee, guys

[01:00:58] That ain't a frisbee

[01:01:00] Bro

[01:01:02] This is what I'm saying

[01:01:04] You have to learn your

[01:01:06] Partner though, because some of y'all

[01:01:08] Out here doing stuff

[01:01:10] And it's dangerous

[01:01:12] And then you have

[01:01:14] These little petty brawls

[01:01:16] Where you're like oh here we go again

[01:01:18] You just know a person needs a blow off some steam

[01:01:20] So now they just huffing and puffing

[01:01:22] And pacing

[01:01:24] And you know

[01:01:26] Oh they didn't slam two doors

[01:01:28] We get it, okay you're mad

[01:01:30] Everybody knows you're mad now

[01:01:32] Like to talk when they're upset?

[01:01:34] I don't

[01:01:36] I like to be left alone

[01:01:38] Like I like to

[01:01:40] Please don't touch me

[01:01:42] Like it's that serious where I have to process

[01:01:44] Because I have

[01:01:46] And the past had super anger issues

[01:01:48] So when I get quiet

[01:01:50] It's because I'm processing how to deal with my issues

[01:01:52] And some people get offended by that

[01:01:54] Oh you ain't talking to me

[01:01:56] And it's kind of like

[01:01:58] You would not want me to talk to you right now

[01:02:00] My husband was a total opposite

[01:02:02] He's just like I'm gonna talk for three hours straight

[01:02:04] And I really don't care if he responds

[01:02:06] And so I just be like

[01:02:08] Oh my god, get it off your chest

[01:02:10] So I just sit down with something to eat

[01:02:12] And I just

[01:02:14] Not with something to eat

[01:02:16] He's gonna be a minute

[01:02:18] I'll be like man

[01:02:20] I'll be like oh man honey

[01:02:22] I'll be like how do I make you feel

[01:02:24] And he just goes

[01:02:26] Because he's not really mad at me

[01:02:28] He's just frustrated at whatever it is

[01:02:30] So I make sure I take detailed notes

[01:02:32] And it's so funny

[01:02:34] I have what LJ says to me and my notes

[01:02:36] And then I read it back to him

[01:02:38] But I had to learn to write down

[01:02:40] What he said because

[01:02:42] What hour in I'm tapping out

[01:02:44] But I don't want to be disrespectful

[01:02:46] So I keep every time he says

[01:02:48] Like a key point of something that bothered him

[01:02:50] I make sure I write it in my notes

[01:02:52] And then when he finally

[01:02:54] Gives me space to respond

[01:02:56] Then I say okay so what you're saying is

[01:02:58] When you left the house

[01:03:00] There was any gas in your car

[01:03:02] I was the last one to have your car

[01:03:04] But you happen to be running late

[01:03:06] So it made you extra mad when you got to work

[01:03:08] Because you had to stop and get gas

[01:03:10] So it's like you know I'm saying

[01:03:12] Sometimes you gotta really be still

[01:03:14] And listen, you said that

[01:03:16] Sometimes you guys sit there and listen

[01:03:18] Some of us have a hard problem listening

[01:03:20] And then we start to get offended

[01:03:22] Throughout the listening

[01:03:24] And then if you are trying not to be offended

[01:03:26] Write down what they're actually saying

[01:03:28] Because then you might really get

[01:03:30] What the problem is

[01:03:32] It ain't that they

[01:03:34] Calling you stupid as they're in the thing

[01:03:36] No, you stupid to do it

[01:03:38] You know what I'm saying

[01:03:40] Don't be silly

[01:03:42] Now I will say this one thing

[01:03:44] We never call each other names over here

[01:03:46] Because that was just the

[01:03:48] That was my defining line

[01:03:50] We got married

[01:03:52] And that was it

[01:03:54] That was like the one rule

[01:03:56] Like you can puff and puff and be upset

[01:03:58] Raise your voice and yell and do all

[01:04:00] You can do all that because I didn't skip you

[01:04:02] Don't put your hands on me

[01:04:04] As long as you put your hands on me

[01:04:06] Be good

[01:04:08] And I'll let you process you let me process

[01:04:10] I'm really good

[01:04:12] But when you call me out of my name though

[01:04:14] That is the ultimate form of disrespect

[01:04:16] In this household

[01:04:18] Because now you don't even understand what God has done

[01:04:20] For us, you know I'm saying like no. I'm still his child. And my name is Dice. Uh-huh. I'm not your ex.

[01:04:21] You know that was our thing was like okay

[01:04:23] Don't put your hands on me don't call me out my name

[01:04:25] You can vent all you want

[01:04:27] You can turn all this stuff up. I don't care

[01:04:29] We got home owners insurance, we'll buy whatever new

[01:04:31] Yeah, tell the do-off if you want

[01:04:33] It's your door. You pay for that

[01:04:35] Go bust everyone throughout your car

[01:04:37] I don't care. Like it's your car

[01:04:39] You pay for that so if you're that foolish to do that

[01:04:41] Please go go

[01:04:43] Don't put your hands on me

[01:04:45] So um you know

[01:04:47] You gotta know how each other communicate

[01:04:49] So when people come from terrible backgrounds where

[01:04:51] The just them yelling is actually them getting better

[01:04:55] Because before they used to really fight who they were with

[01:04:57] You know like that's why I was like you gotta

[01:04:59] You kind of got to know what a person has been through

[01:05:01] So you know

[01:05:03] I was be honest like

[01:05:05] No that is being honest and I'm glad you said that

[01:05:07] Because that's why it's so important to sit down and communicate

[01:05:11] Love your child

[01:05:13] Childs out there about who really court

[01:05:15] Court to real and do the date process

[01:05:17] That's what that's for

[01:05:19] Because we ask all the questions all the tough questions

[01:05:21] Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah

[01:05:23] The family and everything and no

[01:05:25] You know who you who you are part of so

[01:05:27] I grew too

[01:05:28] Oh, Harley

[01:05:29] Yeah, everybody don't everybody don't like it turned up too so

[01:05:33] I don't you know that's another part of it like

[01:05:37] Honestly, I don't know too many I don't know too many

[01:05:39] Who don't like it turned up guys. I don't know

[01:05:41] Some people scared I like to be afraid of my husband sometimes

[01:05:45] Ooh, I don't know what you're gonna do. It's because kind of exciting like that's why I was like you got to know

[01:05:49] Your relationship like make me nervous you don't stand let me know you running this like

[01:05:53] Hey, put a little something in you saw you like oh like it's sexy to me

[01:05:57] You know so but some people don't like that they've like oh he need to be talking nicer

[01:06:01] And I'm like I need him to run around here like a lot like let me know you gonna turn up then

[01:06:05] I kind of shrink back a little bit and get back in my place but you know women

[01:06:09] In this sad because some people like that is just horrible I would like well that's what we like over here bro

[01:06:14] This let me know this your house. Okay, let me go sit down have several seats right now

[01:06:19] I show will want someone to eat I'll be in the kitchen

[01:06:23] That's how man

[01:06:25] Wow we look traditional good

[01:06:27] No that's good and I think before we get out of here

[01:06:31] We got to talk about the importance of praying together

[01:06:34] I think a lot of these marriage brawls are happening because couples ain't praying and reading

[01:06:39] together and getting guys word and understanding what this marriage is really about because I think we put ourself

[01:06:45] To how in the totem pole when you talk about what the marriage is what it represent oh I make this or you know I'm saying I did this

[01:06:53] And no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, just you know

[01:06:55] I like I like that focus but I'll be honest with you brother sometimes a lot of these Christian relationships

[01:07:01] The man or woman will use that Bible for correction

[01:07:07] When they don't feel like hearing or communicating and that's the problem that I have with religious people when it's like

[01:07:13] The word of God say blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. It's like yeah, but if you're not

[01:07:18] Walking in love right now, you don't don't throw that at me like a hammer or a trigger or a bullet to try to get to try to check me

[01:07:24] So I want to I just I feel like I need to say that for some of y'all because some of y'all think just because it's in the Bible

[01:07:30] You'll make got to do it, but it's like if you out of line you out of line

[01:07:33] You know, I just I mean I agree with you what you say it. I just said some people

[01:07:38] Some people use it as a lie so is these people listen

[01:07:41] This is the past is this is the past is this the past

[01:07:44] Listen, man woman of God out here checking it. Yeah, well woman should be

[01:07:49] And it's like okay, but what are you are you showing up and treating your woman like like the church?

[01:07:55] You know

[01:07:56] I do love it hard like like Christ loves the church because if you it sounds like you're not

[01:08:01] It sounds like you're not sir. So it's like if you're not acting accordingly

[01:08:06] Please don't ever think your wife is about to follow suit. You're supposed to be her covering you know

[01:08:10] You supposed to be as Christians were supposed to be pulling out the good in each other we supposed to be showing up

[01:08:15] You know what I'm saying? So if you are I got a thot out there and it's tough

[01:08:19] I know sometimes you know men because women can be very very vicious, but you really got to understand like

[01:08:25] You got to be a protector and that's not just physical protection. That's mental, emotional, spiritual

[01:08:31] So it's like yeah, you can't just throw up the word and think somebody gonna fall in line that it don't work like that

[01:08:37] You can pray all you want

[01:08:38] But if you both your hearts are aren't aligned towards each other is that prayering a prayer fall on the fears you have

[01:08:46] No, that's real

[01:08:48] Well, I think the biggest thing is less like you say growth

[01:08:51] We we need to continue to have encourage each other to grow and get better in this area. I know when you're gonna chance read a second Peter 318

[01:08:59] It encourages the process of growing in all areas your life also

[01:09:04] Check out Proverbs 14 and 8

[01:09:07] Because that uh you come on now. You already know what that is. That's wisdom when you talk about solutions for

[01:09:12] You know being able to not have these toxic relationships and these marriage brawl like at the end of the day

[01:09:18] This is toxic. We know it's toxic. We need to get better

[01:09:21] We need to grow we need to seek wisdom and I'm with you on that dice absolutely shout out to y'all who out there

[01:09:28] Using the Bible and using it for your advantage just to shame your spouse stop doing that

[01:09:34] No, no, no if you're gonna bring God into it like you should and you want to bring some scripture

[01:09:39] And you want to break that thing down listen make sure you're right, you know, and then that's the beautiful thing talk about both sides

[01:09:45] Absolutely, you know, it's pros and cons to everything. I'm glad you brought that up dice because you're absolutely right talk about both sides

[01:09:51] So if you are the pocket okay, it's okay husband apologize wife

[01:10:05] I was wrong. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. It'll never happen again. It's so easy. I was wrong. I'm sorry

[01:10:13] Please forgive me. It'll never happen again. I was wrong. I'm sorry

[01:10:17] This is so it's just the simple it's so small. It is so small. Oh my god. Oh, baby. I'm sorry

[01:10:24] I'm so sorry. Oh, did you give man when I said that yeah?

[01:10:28] I'm so sorry like it's a lot of fun when you get into loving each other the right way then it's easy to apologize

[01:10:36] But if you I'm trying to end it is easy to accept an apology, you know

[01:10:41] But yeah, that repetitive behavior though you got to check that but I'm just saying like it's some stuff can get solved with just the I'm sorry

[01:10:48] I didn't know and then I'll be rid of what you candy food going shopping and putting my bank account usually works very well

[01:10:55] So I moved up about moved up to see

[01:11:00] food

[01:11:02] 20 food make it something to eat and put some change my account if this is the positive

[01:11:10] She got their looks on hey my baby love me

[01:11:14] I accept your apology

[01:11:20] Can you tell me just now

[01:11:22] I love help me

[01:11:24] Thank you

[01:11:25] Lips and mares brawls that's it we got to go to a break keep it like we got much more you tune into the fix and the fixes in

[01:11:33] Yes, sir God good

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[01:12:14] Thank y'all for waking up again. Happy birthday to who dice?

[01:12:17] Listen happy birthday to a lot of people today

[01:12:20] Madison Bailey's turning 24 years old

[01:12:23] David Spencer the YouTube star he's turning 31

[01:12:27] Mr. Tom Selik himself is turning 78 years old

[01:12:31] Charlie Wilson

[01:12:33] Okay, in the building turning 70 years old

[01:12:36] Everybody know who his first name child their last name Wilson is

[01:12:40] And listen the really big one right here is our like four billion dollar lady here open winpy

[01:12:46] Oprah Gail Winfrey

[01:12:48] For those of you who wonder why gail and gail are so close. She is the number one

[01:12:54] Money-making American talk show host television producer actress owner of satellites and you name it

[01:13:02] She's known for her show her broadcast from Chicago

[01:13:06] 25 years and of course just the own network and the list goes on and on and I gotta give a special shout out to Stebman himself who hung in there and now he's

[01:13:14] What you call it because when you stay together for so long y'all married. Let's go

[01:13:19] Come along

[01:13:21] Is he really?

[01:13:23] They've been together since 1986 and he is her partner

[01:13:28] So after you after you with somebody for I think it's 12 years in it

[01:13:32] Something like that then you're

[01:13:34] I actually got married I don't understand what they just get married I don't understand why they do

[01:13:38] You together for ever and ever and ever and ever so happy birthday to each and every one of you who have a birthday

[01:13:46] Today, so all you January 29th birthday is today's your day. I'm beyond such a nice. I feel a certain type of way about that coming along

[01:13:55] I do

[01:13:56] So no, so my thing is because this reverse

[01:14:01] Everybody

[01:14:03] I kind of feel a certain type of way you know, obviously Stebman is okay with it, but I'll just feel a certain type of way that I feel like yeah, I don't know

[01:14:11] I just don't feel you know, I don't know. It just feel funny. It just say it in the way you said it feels funny

[01:14:18] No, feel like I just used to the man you know, I'm saying proposal to the to his wife and you know like yeah now I can get nothing no no no shade at all

[01:14:28] I don't care that you know she makes more money than me. I don't have issue with that

[01:14:32] But I just feel like it feel weird that we're saying a man is common law menry to his wife

[01:14:39] Why me who else about to go be with focus?

[01:14:42] I don't want to be with nobody else, but it just seems weird. It's like I'm saying I don't know once the over says yes

[01:14:49] I'm not going to wear I mean she you don't got to marry you you just like if she say we good you just gotta sit on over there

[01:14:55] Be good now. No, I can't do that. I can't. Yeah, you don't play. I would not I'm too much of a man

[01:15:02] No, that's that's to me again

[01:15:05] I come from a different cloth that just seemed a little bit like you don't respect me as a man

[01:15:10] I just feel like he can't give her nothing like and let's okay. Let's be honest

[01:15:15] It's more than just money that you've been a marriage so let's go so she was 19 so look at it

[01:15:21] So she started that show in Chicago

[01:15:24] 1986 she met she met stemin in 1986

[01:15:29] So let's be real you and I both know

[01:15:32] Stemin has had a lot of input and Oprah Winfrey's life, but we never talk about it

[01:15:36] We always make it seem like she's done whatever, but it just it's just like you are like we can't leave our husbands or our wives

[01:15:43] Out of our success. You know they play half of the role like nobody ever sees them though

[01:15:48] So they just see our face, you know, I'm standing. I know for it the million facts

[01:15:53] If you ain't have your white bro, I don't even know where you be

[01:15:56] I'm talking about not even just the big I'm like she is a boss, you know

[01:15:59] Like I could at least say that after meeting her. I'm like she's fire

[01:16:02] But nobody will ever really see her face anywhere unless we start like pushing her face like that

[01:16:08] So I say all that to say I'm a thousand percent sure that stemin has contributed to

[01:16:14] I'm a bone say 45% of all this success you gotta have somebody solid behind you and this man has proven because over to the bar

[01:16:22] Anybody she can buy people now. She don't even she wanted a she could about her three-fold husband's like you know

[01:16:29] Any person

[01:16:31] She don't even yeah, she ain't got love you. You know I'm saying she could oh my people like how much you want to work

[01:16:36] How much you want them up 20k? That's nothing that's nothing. I got 20 billion you know 20k

[01:16:41] Like that's petty like I eat that on the week. Check your emails for my demands check your email for my demands

[01:16:47] My monthly demands

[01:16:50] Be on time to be on time early don't play be early brother

[01:16:56] Yes

[01:17:00] I'll stop the Oprah step I would

[01:17:02] I

[01:17:04] Want that yeah, I

[01:17:06] Want to be so much fun my great brain on so much stuff absolutely

[01:17:10] Oh my goodness listen

[01:17:13] Coming up we got lyrics for the mind as well as the faith and sports reports

[01:17:16] So keep it locked. We're going to a break. We'll be right back or more you tune into the fix and the fixes in

[01:17:24] Yo, what's good family welcome back to Shibuya focus and welcome back to another episode of lyrics for the mine

[01:17:30] Where we dive deep into lyrics of impactful songs and explore the mental health themes they address

[01:17:36] Today we're diving into Miami's praying slay strike now. This is a powerful anthem against life struggles

[01:17:43] Now Miami starts off by acknowledging the daily grind and challenges women face

[01:17:48] Did you know that women are more likely than men to experience depression with cultural society pressures playing a significant role in that

[01:17:57] The theme of praying and slaying giants resonates throughout the song

[01:18:00] It's a metaphor for facing life challenges head on

[01:18:04] Miami brings in the biblical story of David and Goliath

[01:18:08] emphasizing that God always makes a way

[01:18:11] Miami also touches on trusting God when everything is going in the spiral when everything seems like it's out of whack

[01:18:19] This is critical especially when dealing with life's uncertainties

[01:18:23] As you know that faith and spirituality can positively impact mental health

[01:18:29] Statistics from the American psychological

[01:18:32] Association show that 76% of women who incorporate face and spirituality have a positive impact on dealing with mental health issues at large

[01:18:42] Now this song dives into the struggles Miami has faced in her life

[01:18:46] From losing family members dealing with brokenness

[01:18:50] All the mental health challenges and how she's always felt like she's been misunderstood

[01:18:56] Now Miami being open and being this vulnerable really sheds a lot of life on all the mental health struggles that women go through every single day

[01:19:05] And how they're scared sometimes to even go get therapy or even talk about these things

[01:19:12] Miami emphasizes that her faith and trust in God sustains her

[01:19:17] This may as the experience of many who have failed short with that with lack of strong spiritual growth

[01:19:26] Miami declaration of being the soldier and facing life challenges with faith showcases resilience

[01:19:32] Now let's continue to keep this conversation going and break down these stigmas

[01:19:37] This is lyrics for the mind turning lyrics into lessons remember you're never alone in this journey

[01:19:43] La Cray Tasha Cobbs Leonard your power and things steal high in my

[01:19:50] motivational songs for the morning. We also played a shout out to listen

[01:19:55] Bizzle shot off the bizzle and child like CC with that bus and we also played listen that new banger

[01:20:02] Shows out to listen our bro

[01:20:05] George Rose with that algorithm

[01:20:08] So yeah, thank y'all for waking up with us another day in the books. I pray y'all enjoyed this show

[01:20:13] How good was that Convo we had on a

[01:20:16] Marriage bras and how to fight fan

[01:20:18] How to get right a little bit dice you know, I feel like the 2024

[01:20:22] I think marriages need to go to a different level especially in your communication

[01:20:27] How do you communicate and also to as well?

[01:20:30] I think a lot of a lot of people you know

[01:20:32] We need to get that respect back into marriages

[01:20:34] I think something just just too disrespectful dice

[01:20:38] I hear these jokers cussing each other out and I say they ain't no respect to that. They mean the choice words right there

[01:20:43] No respect it isn't it we're on the streets. I promise you would be behind behind a bar

[01:20:49] Like to bad fighting like I don't know how y'all go around these households and jokers is cussing you out calling your mama

[01:20:55] This and your daddy that just we did just fight fellow

[01:21:00] These red words I mean listen red

[01:21:02] I know we got the red letters in the Bible, but it should be red little red words that you do not use when you communicate

[01:21:07] With your spouse is supposed to be your teammate. This is your life partner for life

[01:21:12] Like what we talking about the mother of your kid the father of your kids like what what are we talking about?

[01:21:17] Why is this thing so complicated?

[01:21:19] But I think this toxic relationship when we see everything on TV loving hip hop and all this drama

[01:21:25] It's in like the world is viewed on it right now dice

[01:21:29] And this is something that we need to change especially in marriage because we know eventually these toxic relationships

[01:21:35] Communication it just leads to divorce because at some point somebody gonna wake up and say you know what?

[01:21:39] I'm trying to you cousin me out. I'm trying to you put your hands on me. I'm tired of it

[01:21:43] And then out

[01:21:45] Yeah, I mean I got enough PTSD with domestic violence in my life

[01:21:50] So I've seen enough, you know, that's why that's another reason why I can't be with anybody who was even has a hint of

[01:21:56] They want to be physically violent because this is the same thing with the road rage like you don't know what a person's been through

[01:22:02] So you might trigger them

[01:22:04] You might just think y'all I'm just gonna let this one slide and then you don't know that they was called that name for 15 years

[01:22:10] And they was now they just done

[01:22:11] You know, and they ready to pop off as soon as they hear it, you know and

[01:22:15] For those of you who are in like a relationship with domestic violence

[01:22:19] I encourage you to get out of it

[01:22:20] See counseling if you just are trying to stay in it, but I'll be rude to you if anybody hits you

[01:22:25] They'll kill you and my grandmother told me that a long time ago

[01:22:28] Trust me. I've almost lost my life in the car with my mom and our my stepmom and my dad

[01:22:34] My grandmother had just passed away and it was a sensitive situation and hey my stepmom then was just

[01:22:41] Running her mouth and called him

[01:22:43] You know a motherless child and then our car just happened to end up facing traffic

[01:22:47] You know like it was it was a situation like that where they brawling, you know in the car

[01:22:52] And I'm in the car and I'm just like let me out of the bleeping car

[01:22:56] Let me out of the bleeping car if y'all want to kill yourself

[01:22:59] You go kill yourself together, but I don't want any parts of this

[01:23:02] So I'm like people really have real life situations and so it's like yeah

[01:23:08] You don't need to be married just popping off and acting any kind of way because you don't know what people been through

[01:23:13] You know so you know

[01:23:14] And you go to all the counseling you won't get out there

[01:23:17] But you won't you can give it to Jesus. I you want but your body is it's muscle memory

[01:23:21] So it's like, you know

[01:23:22] You can get like startled when stuff happens

[01:23:25] That's why some people don't like arguing and yelling that's our house. We don't do arguing a yelling

[01:23:29] Can't do it grew up that way don't do it

[01:23:32] You know I'm saying because it just brings back this horrible feeling up

[01:23:35] You know you guys

[01:23:37] You know got to know how to respect each other as you know kids that just gets embedded in kids souls

[01:23:42] So when people start yelling like when we out and about and people started turning up

[01:23:46] I'm looking for my peace my knife. I'm looking for something because I'm just triggered like okay

[01:23:51] It might not happen, but if it does

[01:23:54] But if we if it happens I'm ready

[01:23:56] I'm saying so it's like you really you can mess people up by

[01:24:00] You know and this is for y'all couples

[01:24:02] Just after arguing in front of kids and stuff like that like you can really you know traumatize your children

[01:24:07] Yeah, and they can have healthy lives and all that but shoot sometimes take a minute to get over the trauma so

[01:24:14] Say all that to say mm-hmm. Get better do better. Stop brawling start loving

[01:24:19] Yeah, please start loving please start loving and getting your word

[01:24:24] Please get God back at the center your marriage because I think a lot of this stuff because they know by the praying

[01:24:29] They know by talking about God and y'all just think y'all doing in your own

[01:24:32] Listen to Trinity

[01:24:33] Shows out to everybody who believes in the Trinity in the marriage God at the center

[01:24:38] Why let's let's let's just keep that thing right at the center because yeah, you represent him in your marriage not yourself

[01:24:45] So get out your feelings and stop bringing up all stuff from y'all you know your parents and your mommy

[01:24:51] No, I'm not a fan of that. I know a lot of people bring it up

[01:24:54] My mama did it this way my daddy did it this way that's cool

[01:25:03] It's a shit of magic mama

[01:25:05] My mama I'm done over here. Okay. Yeah, yeah, don't do that don't do that

[01:25:11] I'll shout out though because we we mentor a lot of

[01:25:14] Mary couples and we do pray marital mentoring and after first thing

[01:25:18] You know, I want her I want him to do it like my dad did it. I want him to do it

[01:25:22] I want him to hurt it do it like my mom did it's like no no way man

[01:25:25] You guys are gonna share your own experience

[01:25:27] You guys are gonna build on what you guys build what you guys create absolutely

[01:25:32] You know you can take some things from you know your parents, but this is your life

[01:25:36] It's gonna be different than what your parents were just like your parents life was different and your grandparents were again

[01:25:42] So yeah, so let's just keep that in mind because that's that ain't really the tools with it

[01:25:46] I know a real expectation stop

[01:25:49] Yeah, stop. We love you shot side to our sis. Michelle Elizabeth Williams came through

[01:25:55] Man powerful testimony dice powerful testimony

[01:25:58] Oh, yeah, absolutely like she shared it all and I thank God for her

[01:26:01] You know her love her life and her push and her fight and her testimony and just the fact she's putting it all in a book

[01:26:08] And so you guys need check her out at Michelle Elizabeth Williams dot com make sure you're following her on all your Instagram and social media platforms because

[01:26:16] Like you said she's not here doing it big

[01:26:18] Her and her whole family like they have just amazing testimonies and the way they serve community is beautiful

[01:26:24] So she's awesome woman is honored to have her on

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