693. How To Become Ordinary Angels: Harnessing the Power of Personal Growth

[00:00:00] It's the stories, the journeys, the testimonies.

[00:00:04] It's the spiritual detox.

[00:00:06] Welcome back. Welcome back.

[00:00:07] DJ Focus, Dice Gamber.

[00:00:08] You tap back into the fix, your source of faith,

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[00:00:12] It's time for our spiritual detox.

[00:00:13] And listen, we got a, we got an exclusive for you all today.

[00:00:16] We love the opportunity to watch some movies

[00:00:19] that will really, will inspire you and really,

[00:00:21] you know, help your faith

[00:00:23] and just really take you on a journey.

[00:00:25] And I love storytelling.

[00:00:27] So when I got a chance to see this film

[00:00:29] that just dropped, I was excited because

[00:00:32] it is definitely a movie that inspires love,

[00:00:35] but also faith.

[00:00:37] I saw so many elements of just trusting in something bigger

[00:00:41] than you over and over in this film.

[00:00:44] And we have one of the lead actresses

[00:00:46] that's playing in the movie on with us right now.

[00:00:49] Listen, you might've seen her in,

[00:00:50] you listen to some of the classics

[00:00:52] that we all love like Booty Call,

[00:00:54] Friday after next and a lot of other movies.

[00:00:58] Listen, the super talented, listen, she's a singer.

[00:01:00] She's a producer.

[00:01:01] She's an actress.

[00:01:02] She does it all.

[00:01:03] Tamela Jones, what's going on sis?

[00:01:05] How you doing?

[00:01:06] I am good.

[00:01:07] How are you?

[00:01:08] I'm good.

[00:01:09] Thank you.

[00:01:10] I'm excited because this is,

[00:01:12] I feel like this role you're playing

[00:01:14] in this amazing film,

[00:01:16] Ordinary Angels is something different.

[00:01:18] It seems like, like you came to life in this.

[00:01:21] Can you just talk about your role as roles

[00:01:24] and this amazing movie?

[00:01:27] Rose is, she plays the best friend of Sharon

[00:01:32] who's played by Hilary Swank.

[00:01:34] Rose is a very warm ride or die friend,

[00:01:39] but she's not about the nonsense.

[00:01:42] She's very concerned about Sharon at times

[00:01:46] because Sharon has her little issue.

[00:01:49] But she, she's very supportive as well.

[00:01:55] And her and Sharon run this hair salon together.

[00:01:59] So when Sharon reads this story in the paper

[00:02:02] about this little girl and tells Rose

[00:02:04] that she's, she's got to help her.

[00:02:06] Rose is like, but you need to take care of you first.

[00:02:09] And I feel like at that moment

[00:02:12] when they have that conversation,

[00:02:14] it hits Rose that, okay,

[00:02:17] she does need help,

[00:02:19] but this is way bigger than her.

[00:02:21] You know, it was the selflessness

[00:02:23] that made Rose have to jump on board

[00:02:25] and help Sharon out with this.

[00:02:28] Yes, I agree.

[00:02:31] So, you know, with that being said in this role,

[00:02:35] did you find some challenges

[00:02:37] or did it kind of like build your faith to another level?

[00:02:40] Cause I know you've been through a lot too as well.

[00:02:42] Just in your faith journey, you know, speak to that a little bit.

[00:02:46] Well, I will tell you, I've been through,

[00:02:51] so many things in my life,

[00:02:55] but I never lost faith.

[00:02:57] It only made my faith stronger

[00:03:00] knowing that I could see death in the face

[00:03:03] and still come out and tell you I'm here

[00:03:06] and I'm still doing what I love to do.

[00:03:08] My faith would never, it will never waver.

[00:03:11] This movie was important to me

[00:03:15] because it was like finally,

[00:03:18] here is a movie that has such a strong message

[00:03:22] about faith and love and community

[00:03:25] without pounding that in your face,

[00:03:28] without making that be all it's about.

[00:03:31] And I love that it's based on a true story

[00:03:33] and it gives you those different levels

[00:03:35] and elements of what real life is,

[00:03:38] what it could consist of, you know?

[00:03:41] And I feel as the world, as a whole,

[00:03:45] we've all been through something so traumatic,

[00:03:49] the pandemic.

[00:03:50] We were all locked down.

[00:03:52] We all had never been through one of those before

[00:03:55] and it all, it messed us all up.

[00:03:57] It made us all feel like it was the end of the world

[00:04:00] and we kind of shut ourselves in

[00:04:02] and said, I'm just going to worry about me and mine.

[00:04:05] And that's not the way to be in life.

[00:04:10] And I feel that Ordinary Angels

[00:04:13] shows a very beautiful example of how easily it is

[00:04:17] to feel like you're alone

[00:04:19] and no one's there to help you.

[00:04:21] Like Ed Schmidt felt, you know, he lost his wife,

[00:04:24] he's about to lose his kid,

[00:04:26] he never said I need help, he never asked for help.

[00:04:29] It took a journalist to write about this

[00:04:31] for someone to see it and say,

[00:04:33] I'm going to help them.

[00:04:34] So I hope when people see this movie

[00:04:37] that they learn that they need to open up again

[00:04:41] and be neighborly and ask their neighbor,

[00:04:45] are you all right?

[00:04:46] Do you need anything?

[00:04:47] Or if it's you who needs something that you speak up

[00:04:50] and say, I need help, you know.

[00:04:53] We've all been through something.

[00:04:55] We all need help.

[00:04:56] We can't do it alone.

[00:04:57] And that's what disability says.

[00:04:59] It says we can't do it alone.

[00:05:02] What did you think?

[00:05:04] What did you think we lost that sense of community

[00:05:07] and the importance of helping each other

[00:05:09] and knowing your neighbor

[00:05:10] and knowing, you know, your city council people

[00:05:13] or your local church or what do you think

[00:05:15] that got lost in translation to where we're not doing that?

[00:05:17] Because I hear what you're saying.

[00:05:19] That definitely, I definitely know this is needed.

[00:05:21] But why are we even talking of this being a need

[00:05:24] when it feels like this should always be

[00:05:27] a part of who we are as just being, you know,

[00:05:30] good citizens, I believe.

[00:05:32] Well, I feel because we all got separated,

[00:05:35] you know, we all were separated.

[00:05:38] We had positive people that we could communicate with

[00:05:40] during the pandemic, you know.

[00:05:42] If they didn't live with you, then it was like

[00:05:44] stay away from them.

[00:05:45] Everybody has the plague, you know.

[00:05:47] And I think on top of that, along with politics,

[00:05:50] you know, there was a divide

[00:05:53] and it all was happening at the same freaking time,

[00:05:56] you know.

[00:05:57] And it just, it made people

[00:06:01] back up and put a wall up immediately.

[00:06:05] And I understand that wall,

[00:06:08] but it is time to let the wall come down a little bit.

[00:06:13] You can still be protected, you can still have your wall

[00:06:16] of protection, but we need to see you and you need to see us.

[00:06:20] That's how we make sure everybody's okay.

[00:06:23] That's how we're able to ask

[00:06:24] and that's how we're able to see

[00:06:26] and that's how we're able to tell, you know,

[00:06:29] by the look on someone's face.

[00:06:31] So what I need people to do,

[00:06:33] what I hope this movie inspires people to do

[00:06:36] is random acts of kindness.

[00:06:39] Because I feel like by doing that,

[00:06:41] that is a way to help us get back to being neighborly

[00:06:45] and community-filled, you know.

[00:06:50] I will say that the people of La Merck Park,

[00:06:56] they showed community through the pandemic.

[00:06:59] I will give them,

[00:07:00] I will give them props on that.

[00:07:02] That was the only place I was able to see that though

[00:07:05] and go down there and be in that.

[00:07:08] But we need more of that.

[00:07:10] Yes, we do.

[00:07:12] Yes, we do.

[00:07:13] Talk about working with this stellar cast.

[00:07:15] You brought up Hillary Swank and everybody else.

[00:07:17] Just talk about this amazing cast that's in this film.

[00:07:21] This cast is outrageous in a good way

[00:07:25] because you got Hillary Swank,

[00:07:28] you've got Alan Richardson,

[00:07:30] you've got Nancy Travis,

[00:07:32] you've got Amy Acker playing the mom who passes away.

[00:07:35] And then you've got these two little starlets,

[00:07:39] a Skywalker Hughes and Emily Mitchell who played the sisters.

[00:07:44] To me they were the stars of the movie.

[00:07:47] I've never seen two young actresses have and hold

[00:07:52] a scene like they have to drive forward

[00:07:57] and make me really feel that you are sick.

[00:08:01] This is your big sister who's going to miss you.

[00:08:04] Everyone did an amazing job.

[00:08:06] Drew Powell who plays the pastor,

[00:08:09] he was amazing to work with.

[00:08:11] I really expect to see nothing but the best

[00:08:15] for everybody involved in this picture

[00:08:17] because they helped tell such a beautiful story

[00:08:20] and they did it well.

[00:08:22] And with the director we had John Gunn,

[00:08:25] he layered each scene.

[00:08:27] He gave you layers.

[00:08:29] He would ask you to do something and then he'd have you

[00:08:32] on top of that do something else,

[00:08:34] on top of that do something else until he got what he needed.

[00:08:37] And the Irwin brothers,

[00:08:40] Kingdom Company story,

[00:08:42] they are so dyslexic.

[00:08:46] They are so good at putting these types of movies together,

[00:08:50] these faith based movies that don't push it down your throat

[00:08:56] that that's what it is.

[00:08:58] They give you a great story that leads you in

[00:09:00] and makes you feel everything.

[00:09:03] And with the great actors involved,

[00:09:05] we drew you in even deeper on this one.

[00:09:08] It was like we almost didn't have a choice.

[00:09:11] That's good.

[00:09:14] What does ordinary angels mean to you?

[00:09:18] If somebody was to come and say,

[00:09:20] hey, what does ordinary angels mean to you?

[00:09:22] What would you tell them?

[00:09:24] That that's us.

[00:09:26] We are the ordinary angels.

[00:09:28] That's our job here as human beings

[00:09:30] to create things that we can all use

[00:09:34] and to love.

[00:09:37] We weren't put here to hate each other, certainly not.

[00:09:41] But you can be an ordinary angel.

[00:09:44] You can do a random act of kindness

[00:09:47] by just not always digging in your pocket.

[00:09:50] But you know, if you see someone not looking so well

[00:09:53] or they look like they're not going through it,

[00:09:55] why don't you go ask them?

[00:09:56] I see you don't look too happy.

[00:09:59] Are you all right?

[00:10:00] Well, can I pray with you?

[00:10:02] Can I whatever it doesn't take much to help someone.

[00:10:07] And I think we need to get back into helping each other

[00:10:11] because we are still going through a hard time right now.

[00:10:14] People are still having financial problems, you know?

[00:10:18] I don't think enough people know that you can actually go to a church

[00:10:22] and see if they have food drives or clothes drives

[00:10:27] or whatever household things, you know,

[00:10:29] people are there still so close they don't know, you know?

[00:10:33] I think the people that do know

[00:10:35] should make it their business to tell other people

[00:10:39] what is in their community and what is available to them.

[00:10:43] Last question, I'm going to get you out of here.

[00:10:45] What's that one thing that you think that God has shown you

[00:10:48] that that wild moment that you kind of like didn't know

[00:10:51] that God was going to do,

[00:10:52] whether it be in your professional career, your personal life?

[00:10:55] What's that one thing you can leave with the people

[00:10:57] and say, you know, maybe doubting or maybe just need to,

[00:11:01] you know, a certain if there is a higher power,

[00:11:05] could you share something with them that, you know,

[00:11:07] without a doubt you could say, wow, God did that?

[00:11:11] God did me. Okay.

[00:11:14] I've had different examples throughout my life where I felt

[00:11:19] I'd been tested.

[00:11:21] I feel like God, it was either God who showed up

[00:11:24] or there was an angel who showed up.

[00:11:27] It was one time and it was like during the first strike

[00:11:30] that we had, I think it was two,

[00:11:32] the one that I would remember 2003, 2004 SAG after strike.

[00:11:37] At that time, I owned two properties in California.

[00:11:41] One was under construction.

[00:11:43] The other one I was living in, I was having money problems,

[00:11:47] no work, you can't work during a strike.

[00:11:50] You can't do anything.

[00:11:52] The residuals weren't enough to cover my expenses.

[00:11:55] And I had a friend that I had worked with

[00:11:58] and that friend told me if you ever need anything,

[00:12:02] just let me know I got you.

[00:12:04] So I met up with that friend and I told that friend

[00:12:07] that I needed help and that friend told me I'm not doing that.

[00:12:10] Okay.

[00:12:14] So at that time I had $50 in my pocket, you know,

[00:12:18] and I just needed a little bit of whatever

[00:12:21] that friend could have given me just for a short amount of time

[00:12:24] and I would have given it back.

[00:12:27] I had $50 and I smoked cigarettes at that time.

[00:12:30] So I went to the gas station after I left that friend,

[00:12:33] I put $20 in my gas tank, I bought a pack of cigarettes

[00:12:37] and when I came out, I saw a man digging in the trash

[00:12:41] and I didn't have it, but I just went over there

[00:12:45] and was like hey, take this.

[00:12:47] That was my last $20.

[00:12:49] I was like just take it.

[00:12:50] Like you shouldn't be digging in the trash.

[00:12:52] He was like, I don't want it.

[00:12:54] I said, but you're digging in the trash.

[00:12:57] You could just have this and get whatever food

[00:12:59] or whatever drink do you want me to go inside

[00:13:02] and get it for you?

[00:13:03] He was like, no, I don't want it.

[00:13:08] So I, that's okay.

[00:13:10] I said, well God bless you anyway

[00:13:12] and I hope that you're okay out here

[00:13:16] and I walked away and I kept looking back,

[00:13:18] kept looking back and I was just puzzled.

[00:13:22] Like why wouldn't you take,

[00:13:24] even though I needed it, you know what I mean?

[00:13:26] I needed my $20 but why didn't you come in?

[00:13:29] Why you didn't want it?

[00:13:30] So I drove off and I tried to look for that man other days

[00:13:37] and I never saw him again.

[00:13:39] I never saw him again.

[00:13:41] And not long after that, I met a friend through a friend.

[00:13:47] This guy is a real estate developer here in Los Angeles

[00:13:51] and he was really nice.

[00:13:53] His name is Ramon and Ramon loved my acting

[00:13:58] and he did not like seeing me in a bad place

[00:14:00] and he gave me a check.

[00:14:02] He signed it and he left it blank

[00:14:03] and he said, take whatever you want.

[00:14:05] Wow.

[00:14:06] Put $500 in there because that's all I needed

[00:14:10] and he was like, that's it.

[00:14:12] I was like, that's what I needed

[00:14:13] and I tried to give it back to him.

[00:14:14] He didn't want it but that's what I needed

[00:14:16] and not long after that, I got an audition for Up in the Air,

[00:14:22] the George Clooney movie.

[00:14:24] And then after that, I got an audition for a pilot,

[00:14:27] just a guest star role, possible recurring

[00:14:30] and that was Castle.

[00:14:32] And then that role turned into a series regular role.

[00:14:36] So I don't question God.

[00:14:39] I just follow and walk by faith.

[00:14:43] I don't ever have, if I don't like it,

[00:14:46] I know it's uncomfortable because I'm shifting.

[00:14:49] I'm growing and I need to learn whatever lesson.

[00:14:51] But I don't ask God why anymore.

[00:14:54] I just don't.

[00:14:56] No need.

[00:14:57] Listen, he need to show it up,

[00:14:58] to show it out in your life.

[00:15:00] Hey, listen sis, I appreciate you coming on.

[00:15:03] Listen, just want to thank you for the journey.

[00:15:05] You have made a collection of great films

[00:15:08] that we are going to watch for years and years to come,

[00:15:11] especially for our culture.

[00:15:13] So I do want to just salute you and give you your roses

[00:15:15] for just everything you're doing.

[00:15:17] Just please tell the people how they can go watch this movie,

[00:15:21] any details about the ordinary angels.

[00:15:24] You can see this movie in any of your theaters,

[00:15:27] ordinary angels.

[00:15:28] It's a beautiful story.

[00:15:29] You could take your family.

[00:15:31] It's a wonderful, wonderful thing for your eyes to see.

[00:15:36] And I'm not saying that because I'm in it.

[00:15:38] I would go see this movie a million times

[00:15:41] because it's that freaking good.

[00:15:46] In your theaters, you can follow me on Instagram.

[00:15:49] I'm Tam Jones and the number one.

[00:15:51] I'm also Tamela Jones on X, which used to be Twitter.

[00:15:55] And that's it.

[00:15:59] The super talented, lovely Tamela Jones.

[00:16:01] Listen, keep it locked.

[00:16:02] We got to go to a break.

[00:16:03] We'll be right back for more.

[00:16:04] You tuned into the fix.

[00:16:08] Real imperfect people in pursuit of a perfect God.

[00:16:11] Let's jump into today's real talk topic and we back DJ focus.

[00:16:16] Dice Gamble is trying to get rid of these streets.

[00:16:19] Thank y'all.

[00:16:20] Thank y'all for tapping in with us.

[00:16:22] And when I tell you dice got one for y'all today,

[00:16:25] we we we already started talking about the started off

[00:16:29] the year talking about pruning and pruning season.

[00:16:32] So we minds were going to this topic right here then dice

[00:16:36] because I mean, you know, after you can prune all that little

[00:16:38] negative stuff off again.

[00:16:40] Thank you.

[00:16:41] You know, thank you.

[00:16:43] At where you need to be at.

[00:16:44] I think this is where this topic comes into full effect.

[00:16:48] So what we talking about dice?

[00:16:51] You know, it's funny because this was actually some you

[00:16:54] you came up with.

[00:16:55] No, no, no, no, no, no, no.

[00:16:58] In the spirit, in the spirit, it was your topic.

[00:17:00] In the spirit, it was your topic.

[00:17:03] I mean, oh Lord personal development guys.

[00:17:06] We got to talk about this personal development, you know.

[00:17:10] We can come from a biblical perspective all day on growth

[00:17:14] and the expectation from God and what Christ expects of us

[00:17:18] to be growing, you know, in the spirit.

[00:17:21] Yes, but personal development.

[00:17:23] I think the same way you have a business plan or you're

[00:17:25] planning out your year at your house, you should have

[00:17:27] a personal development plan.

[00:17:29] This is this is what I want to happen this year with me.

[00:17:33] Period.

[00:17:34] Like the way that you're praying and I don't know if you guys

[00:17:37] actually write down things you're praying for.

[00:17:39] I do.

[00:17:40] I have a prayer board.

[00:17:41] I keep up with it because I need to see it in front of me.

[00:17:44] I need to see when I ask God for it.

[00:17:46] I need to see when I see glimpses of my prayer

[00:17:50] coming into fruition and I need to see when it's like

[00:17:53] a done deal.

[00:17:54] I like to track God like that, but I also like to

[00:17:56] track me and making sure I'm keeping up with my prayer.

[00:17:59] You know, it adding new people to the list or new situations

[00:18:02] to the list.

[00:18:03] So I just want to say like for personal development to keep

[00:18:07] your stress level down.

[00:18:09] Yeah, yeah, like you should be planning all year.

[00:18:13] So I think it makes you happier.

[00:18:15] It gives you direction and improves your peace of mind

[00:18:18] when you're like, I'm going to work on me.

[00:18:20] Yes, work on you because you out here thinking everybody

[00:18:23] else need to be worked on.

[00:18:24] That's that's the messed up attitude.

[00:18:26] Somebody out there church here worried and be like,

[00:18:28] ooh, I'm gonna tell such and such because that word was for

[00:18:30] them.

[00:18:31] Not a word was for you always for you first.

[00:18:33] So but yeah, personal development should be something

[00:18:36] we're tracking daily and definitely we get 12 month

[00:18:39] that thing out and see where you were at the top of

[00:18:42] the year and see where you are at the end of the year.

[00:18:44] I think you'll be proud of yourself if you do that.

[00:18:46] I think it'll build your faith with God a little

[00:18:49] bit more because you'll be like, okay, God, I was wanting

[00:18:51] to be stronger.

[00:18:52] I was wanting to be healthier.

[00:18:54] I was wanting to be 30 pounds lighter.

[00:18:56] I was wanting to have my trade or finish my degree.

[00:19:00] You know, I wanted that underneath my belt.

[00:19:02] I wanted to travel.

[00:19:03] You know, I wanted to not be afraid of people anymore

[00:19:06] and get into community.

[00:19:08] Like these are parts of you getting developed personally

[00:19:11] and it requires you to look inward to see what

[00:19:15] am I afraid of?

[00:19:16] Mm hmm.

[00:19:17] What am I afraid of?

[00:19:19] What it would stay right there.

[00:19:21] That's it.

[00:19:22] Because you said something with that.

[00:19:24] Listen, what am I afraid of?

[00:19:26] Self reflection.

[00:19:27] That's important.

[00:19:30] If you don't self reflect, if you don't look at yourself

[00:19:33] and want to get better, you won't get better.

[00:19:36] You'll stay stuck right there where you are.

[00:19:38] And that's no good not only for you, but listen,

[00:19:40] don't be married and holding your spouse back.

[00:19:42] Don't be have some kids and not be able to

[00:19:45] pour the wisdom in an M.

[00:19:46] Y'all don't want me to get down this thing now.

[00:19:48] You're holding people back.

[00:19:50] So yeah, that's real.

[00:19:52] That's the first thing I thought about as you were talking

[00:19:54] about that self reflection.

[00:19:55] I want to just give a scripture real quick.

[00:19:57] Go ahead.

[00:19:58] I know Psalms 139 and 23.

[00:20:00] It talks about personal strengths and weaknesses

[00:20:03] and how you continue to motivate yourself to get better.

[00:20:07] We need to have more conversations like this,

[00:20:09] guys on awareness of self reflection and personal growth.

[00:20:12] So yeah, I definitely wanted to insert that

[00:20:15] while you were talking about that because that was good.

[00:20:17] You was speaking that talk this morning.

[00:20:20] It's true bro.

[00:20:21] Listen, I mean, this is come on man.

[00:20:23] This is what we do every day on the show.

[00:20:25] The reason why you know,

[00:20:26] he even created the biggest was you trying to help people,

[00:20:29] you know, which it takes people to self reflect.

[00:20:32] That's the only way you got to start with you.

[00:20:35] Start with you.

[00:20:36] And so, you know, like I said,

[00:20:38] you know, you analyze and where you are,

[00:20:40] what you've done and here's the deal.

[00:20:41] You can always start over.

[00:20:43] Like this is weird to me when people say,

[00:20:45] I'm too old or, or I don't know.

[00:20:47] I'm tired.

[00:20:48] It's like, you can change.

[00:20:49] You can always change.

[00:20:50] You can always get better.

[00:20:51] So yeah, just for resilient, see, you know what I mean?

[00:20:56] Like self reflect, but you need to create that,

[00:20:58] that plan, that development plan and partner with people

[00:21:03] to help you stick to that thing.

[00:21:05] Join a group at the Y, you know,

[00:21:07] join a group at church, you know,

[00:21:08] go online and join the 100 men or woman

[00:21:11] or whatever the thing is, you know what I'm saying?

[00:21:13] But just become better, you know,

[00:21:16] just get better.

[00:21:18] I think I should have destroyed before I, you know,

[00:21:20] outside of everything I do, I'm always a manager somewhere,

[00:21:23] somebody's job.

[00:21:24] And I had a young lady who worked for me and she was just irritated

[00:21:28] because she had a master degree that she still had to work

[00:21:30] a regular job.

[00:21:31] She wanted to open a spot.

[00:21:33] I managed over 200 people.

[00:21:35] I said to her, you come in here every day for 10 hours

[00:21:39] or times a week with an attitude because you mad you hear

[00:21:44] because you got to work because you can't get your business off

[00:21:46] the ground yet.

[00:21:47] What would you do?

[00:21:49] Or how would it look if you came in here with the attitude of

[00:21:53] I hear is my business card.

[00:21:54] This is a business I want to start.

[00:21:56] I can do all your nails and your eyelashes at your house.

[00:21:59] Here's my phone number.

[00:22:01] I would love to show you how good I am, you know what I'm

[00:22:04] saying?

[00:22:05] You know, just and I need some encouragement.

[00:22:07] So when y'all see me, you can book your appointment on

[00:22:09] break.

[00:22:10] I was like, you got 200 people that you see every day.

[00:22:12] So if you actually come in here and offer your service to them

[00:22:15] as you're working, you never know that a turn into clients.

[00:22:18] And by the time you get your building, you might mess around

[00:22:21] and have you about 100 customers, but your attitude is jacked

[00:22:24] up, but she never took any stock and looking at herself

[00:22:29] and seeing how she was showing up.

[00:22:30] Like how do I show up in the room?

[00:22:32] How do I show up when I'm in front of strangers?

[00:22:35] How do I show up when I'm in a place that makes me

[00:22:37] uncomfortable?

[00:22:38] How am I showing up?

[00:22:39] And if I don't have the confidence Lord, I want to

[00:22:42] put myself on a personal development plan to become more

[00:22:44] confident.

[00:22:45] And the way that happens is you got to plan it.

[00:22:47] Okay, I'm going to have three interactions every day with

[00:22:49] somebody I don't know who's my confidence.

[00:22:51] And so it's like, it's, you know, people like, oh,

[00:22:54] that she could just talk to anybody.

[00:22:56] Yeah, but it took years.

[00:22:57] It took years of me not being afraid because here's

[00:22:59] the thing.

[00:23:00] My grandma says that you put your pants on the same way

[00:23:02] one leg at a time, just like me.

[00:23:04] You know, nobody's any better than you.

[00:23:06] So, but yeah, we need to work on it.

[00:23:09] I think the enemy works on us when we don't have

[00:23:12] confidence.

[00:23:13] He just, he just go in and know you.

[00:23:15] How are you?

[00:23:16] Look at you.

[00:23:17] He's so stupid.

[00:23:18] I can't believe you can even know how to talk.

[00:23:20] It's like, listen, y'all got to just shut the enemy up

[00:23:23] in 2024 and work on that personal development.

[00:23:26] Working on it.

[00:23:27] Listen, you said something nice.

[00:23:29] Listen, if that young lady would have just set a

[00:23:31] simple little, a small little goal, like you said,

[00:23:34] set the goals.

[00:23:35] I think that's a lot of things that we're not

[00:23:37] doing too as well.

[00:23:38] When you talk about personal development,

[00:23:40] set small measurable goals that you can reach.

[00:23:43] Like you said, listen, you got plenty of people that

[00:23:46] you could talk to every day while you at lunch.

[00:23:49] Look at they, you know, go walk up to the females.

[00:23:51] Girl, I see your nails on look good or you know,

[00:23:53] you know, boom, I see, you got that back pain.

[00:23:56] I might take care of that.

[00:23:57] I don't know what services she offered, but

[00:23:59] a spa got everything.

[00:24:01] You know what I'm saying?

[00:24:02] So you get built your faith up, set the goals

[00:24:04] and go ahead and work it.

[00:24:06] So yeah, listen, we talking about today.

[00:24:09] You don't want to touch that down.

[00:24:11] We'll be right back.

[00:24:12] This is a real talk conversation.

[00:24:13] We've been needing to have personal development.

[00:24:15] Keep it locked.

[00:24:16] You tune into the fix and the fix is in.

[00:24:18] Yes, sir.

[00:24:19] DJ focus, Dice Gamble in the middle of this

[00:24:22] real talk conversation.

[00:24:23] Thank you all for tapping in with us today.

[00:24:25] We're just talking about it, you know,

[00:24:27] personal development.

[00:24:28] And I think something we got to talk about.

[00:24:30] Dice, we already kind of started the year

[00:24:32] talking off about it and trying to figure it out.

[00:24:34] But I know this is something that some people don't put high on

[00:24:37] a personal development list.

[00:24:39] Ooh, practicing a healthy lifestyle.

[00:24:41] And when I talk about healthy lifestyle,

[00:24:43] I'm talking about prioritizing getting that temple,

[00:24:46] that body, that muffin, that muffin top you got.

[00:24:49] Yeah, the men boobs you still got.

[00:24:51] Why you still got them?

[00:24:53] Why you ain't got in the gym and prioritize

[00:24:56] getting your body back in shape?

[00:24:58] No, we got to talk about that.

[00:25:00] I ain't letting off this thing this year.

[00:25:02] Shouts out to all the fried chicken eaters out there

[00:25:04] in the fried chicken ministry after service,

[00:25:06] every service.

[00:25:08] But yes, we need to literally practice

[00:25:12] and prioritize in our plan healthy lifestyle

[00:25:16] when we talk about what we need exercise.

[00:25:18] And of course, we know prayer and meditation

[00:25:20] goes all into that.

[00:25:22] Anytime you do a fast, everybody who knows

[00:25:24] who really fast for real, it's a spiritual thing.

[00:25:26] And especially if you do a pure fast,

[00:25:29] you connect with God on a higher level

[00:25:31] for all my real people who really fast

[00:25:33] and hear from the Lord, who let's your life.

[00:25:35] So that's yes.

[00:25:37] I really want people to know yes,

[00:25:39] this should be high on your prioritized plan

[00:25:42] for the year is a healthy lifestyle,

[00:25:45] getting yourself in fitness.

[00:25:47] I think I talked about this before.

[00:25:49] I got sick, I think when I was 25, like really bad.

[00:25:51] I was trying to figure out what was going on

[00:25:53] and my doctor said do a full body cleanse

[00:25:55] and that got me on track of

[00:25:57] I need to eat right because, you know,

[00:25:59] for health, you know, and longevity

[00:26:01] and Jesus is the number one example of

[00:26:05] our personal development and doing the right things

[00:26:07] and eating and exercise and faith.

[00:26:09] You know, even him allowing the disciples

[00:26:11] to walk with him, he was always teaching them.

[00:26:13] He was like, hey, okay, we got to get better.

[00:26:15] You want to cut off people's ears?

[00:26:17] Let's not do that.

[00:26:19] Okay, you want to fight?

[00:26:21] We know you just be ready to rock all the time.

[00:26:23] Appreciate you, but let's get better.

[00:26:25] You know, Jesus was always calling this out

[00:26:27] and we have so many scriptures that show us

[00:26:31] we are to be getting better.

[00:26:33] Like if we confess our sins, he is faithful

[00:26:35] and just to forgive us and to cleanse us.

[00:26:37] You know, 1 John 1 and 9, you know,

[00:26:41] and even when it comes from two, sorry,

[00:26:43] two temptations with Corinthians 10 and 13

[00:26:45] that there's always a way out,

[00:26:47] you know, no temptation has overtaken you.

[00:26:49] So it's like Jesus knew

[00:26:51] we were going to be tempted

[00:26:53] and challenged, but you know,

[00:26:55] for Samuel 16 and 7, take heart.

[00:26:59] You know what I'm saying? Like I'm here

[00:27:01] and we're going to get through this,

[00:27:03] but there is a expectation to the Christian

[00:27:05] to grow, get better.

[00:27:07] Look at yourself. What did you do wrong?

[00:27:09] Go repent, ask for forgiveness,

[00:27:11] keep it moving.

[00:27:13] So if we know that spiritually

[00:27:15] that should translate into the physical aspect.

[00:27:17] That should translate into the financial aspect.

[00:27:19] That should translate into the mental aspect

[00:27:21] of us as humans. Like I need to be getting better mentally.

[00:27:25] You know, like this thing these millennials have

[00:27:27] and we've even had a rebuke

[00:27:29] from our kids is, oh, I'm having a mental breakdown

[00:27:33] or I need a or I'm a I got anxiety.

[00:27:35] No, you don't.

[00:27:37] They don't one that's not biblical to please get away from me with that

[00:27:41] and three no, I don't need you hooked on drugs

[00:27:43] that will sedate you so you're not in your right mind.

[00:27:45] Some people do have chemical imbalances

[00:27:47] and they need that, but everybody can't just

[00:27:49] have anxiety.

[00:27:51] This is not a thing, you know, I'm saying like

[00:27:53] collectively for everybody to have

[00:27:55] this particular thing that is overwhelming them.

[00:27:57] And so it's like, we got to get back in our word

[00:27:59] and know that God made us

[00:28:01] and we need to lean on him, you know,

[00:28:03] but we do need to seek that self improvement

[00:28:05] and create our own personal development plan.

[00:28:07] Like God, if I didn't go to church for the last three weeks,

[00:28:09] I didn't go to church this week.

[00:28:11] You know, say it because I'm out of pocket.

[00:28:13] I'm missing my fellowship. The thing you do is

[00:28:15] you know, you know, you know,

[00:28:17] in my pocket, I'm missing my fellowship.

[00:28:19] The thing you commanded me to do

[00:28:21] was to hang out with my people.

[00:28:23] So yeah, no, we should be getting better.

[00:28:25] Renew your mind daily.

[00:28:27] We have a thousand scriptures that

[00:28:29] constantly show us

[00:28:31] I need you to be actively working on you

[00:28:33] actively, daily,

[00:28:35] getting better, caring for yourself

[00:28:37] like 1 Corinthians 6 and 19 says

[00:28:39] what? No, you're not.

[00:28:41] That the body is a temple of the Holy Ghost

[00:28:43] which is in you, which you have

[00:28:45] of God and you're not your own turns out.

[00:28:47] So, you know, we can't just

[00:28:49] not want to get better.

[00:28:51] I think older people get stuck in their ways

[00:28:53] and they don't want to get better

[00:28:55] and I don't think God is pleased with that.

[00:28:57] I think he's just either

[00:28:59] what people are.

[00:29:01] Shouts out to the elders.

[00:29:03] Yeah, I know y'all got to think y'all got all the wisdom

[00:29:05] but you can still learn something too as well.

[00:29:07] Always learn something new.

[00:29:09] Okay. I don't care if you 85 years old,

[00:29:11] you can always learn something new.

[00:29:13] And so yeah, that was another way

[00:29:15] focus. I'm glad you brought up the food thing

[00:29:17] with your and your wife and me cooking because

[00:29:19] like I was trying to say

[00:29:21] that's my way of connecting with God

[00:29:23] but that's my way of getting better

[00:29:25] like God show me how to cook something different

[00:29:27] like you made so many things

[00:29:29] and I'm just sticking to, you know, potatoes,

[00:29:31] cabbage and greens is like, yeah, but I've made

[00:29:33] like 20 million other

[00:29:35] vegetables. So why don't you try something else?

[00:29:37] You know what I'm saying? Especially, you know

[00:29:39] so you don't get bored of eating the same thing

[00:29:41] like so I don't know

[00:29:43] I love

[00:29:45] getting better. Some people don't and this is

[00:29:47] for the addicts too like there's

[00:29:49] expectation that you will overcome

[00:29:51] God has given you every single

[00:29:53] thing that you need to overcome. So this

[00:29:55] God ain't delivering from smoke a cigarette

[00:29:57] yet. Stop blaming God

[00:29:59] and making my God look weak. I don't like that

[00:30:01] same whoever whatever you're addicted

[00:30:03] to stop blaming God like God has

[00:30:05] definitely given you the power

[00:30:07] to let anything go to drop

[00:30:09] anything and it's up to you

[00:30:11] now to walk away from it and not pick it up

[00:30:13] again. So, yeah

[00:30:15] so something else too as well

[00:30:17] we hope we get out of here on this

[00:30:19] personal development plan that should be hide

[00:30:21] everybody list financial

[00:30:23] stewardship. Shout out to Luke

[00:30:25] the scripture Luke 16

[00:30:27] and 10 that talks

[00:30:29] about listening practicing wise

[00:30:31] financial stewardship managing

[00:30:33] your resources and making

[00:30:35] sure that you do what's right

[00:30:37] talk about how you manage your money

[00:30:39] this behind everybody

[00:30:41] why would anybody want to do the right thing

[00:30:43] financially

[00:30:45] well, shout out to all the

[00:30:47] husbands out there who are looking

[00:30:49] to leave legacy looking

[00:30:51] to leave something to your kids

[00:30:53] your spouse your grand babies

[00:30:55] or whoever it may be that's

[00:30:57] that's for the men and for the women

[00:30:59] no different you know so if you happen

[00:31:01] to be in a single parent home

[00:31:03] and you taking care of everything no no you should want to leave some for your kids

[00:31:05] you should want to make sure everybody has life insurance

[00:31:07] you should want to make sure these things

[00:31:09] are set up the right way no we need

[00:31:11] to make sure we understand

[00:31:13] financial literacy

[00:31:15] and everything that goes into it

[00:31:17] shout out I've been in seasons where I ain't

[00:31:19] managed money right

[00:31:21] not going to run away from it oh no listen

[00:31:23] listen heart too big

[00:31:25] want to bless everybody want to do this want to do that

[00:31:27] yet got a little shopping a little habit

[00:31:29] I ain't gonna yeah everybody know me I ain't

[00:31:31] going to look about your way so no no I'm okay

[00:31:33] with a line for my wife to do what she needs to do

[00:31:35] she got four degrees

[00:31:37] everything you talk about money three forgive me I said

[00:31:39] four three degrees

[00:31:41] and everything about money why

[00:31:43] I want to be all big and bad because I'm the man

[00:31:45] of the house I got to manage the money that's stupid

[00:31:47] that my wife run the money

[00:31:49] I'm okay with it

[00:31:51] you know what I'm saying we live by the day

[00:31:53] the Dave Ramsey

[00:31:55] process with the

[00:31:57] the envelopes I'm okay with it we go to the bank

[00:31:59] we put our little envelopes on our

[00:32:01] on our little dresses our night standers

[00:32:03] that's our little play money everything else

[00:32:05] is you know investment saving

[00:32:07] paying bills making sure you know we

[00:32:09] bless some people when you talk about everybody

[00:32:11] we try to sew into and bless of course

[00:32:13] pay our tides and stuff like that no no

[00:32:15] every dollar listen I learned the hard way

[00:32:17] I got it you have to put a

[00:32:19] a name to every single dollar

[00:32:21] you make forgive me every penny you make

[00:32:23] I was gonna say you have a name to it every penny

[00:32:25] you make should have a name to it so yes

[00:32:27] financial stewardship should be high on

[00:32:29] the list on your personal development

[00:32:31] plan last thing before we get out of here

[00:32:33] and shout out to all y'all who really gonna do

[00:32:35] this this year forgiveness and reconciliation

[00:32:37] hmm we need to

[00:32:39] get in place some of y'all didn't hurt

[00:32:41] people some of y'all

[00:32:43] need to ask for forgiveness some of y'all

[00:32:45] need to be forgiven some of y'all got

[00:32:47] some toxic relationships that you know

[00:32:49] been toxic too long just go

[00:32:51] go say I'm sorry but give me I was wrong

[00:32:53] I was out of pocket because you don't know

[00:32:55] when we go into heaven you don't know

[00:32:57] I'm gonna call you home as soon as one of

[00:32:59] your loved ones or some of your close friends

[00:33:01] or somebody you worked with or you know

[00:33:03] pass away then you

[00:33:05] ain't get a chance to say this for them

[00:33:07] no no go work that thing out you need

[00:33:09] to make sure you have a spirit of forgiveness

[00:33:11] and always seek reconciliation

[00:33:13] in every relationship

[00:33:15] that you had a part in because

[00:33:17] it's always too size to the story

[00:33:19] and you had a part in it too as well so

[00:33:21] I talk about what everybody did you wrong and what

[00:33:23] what did you do because you did something

[00:33:25] I guarantee you somebody did you wrong

[00:33:27] tell the truth and you called and cut them out didn't you

[00:33:29] you spitting their faces something you did something

[00:33:31] so yeah just say both sides

[00:33:33] but work these things out and make sure

[00:33:35] that you know you get these things taken

[00:33:37] care of all right listen that's it

[00:33:39] for the real talk for the day