Fight For Them! Pt.II w/Minister Calvin Preston

[00:00:00] Park has. And if you really want them to be deliberate now, their struggles are becoming your struggles. One of my young people told me the last thing you want to do is start a fussing at them

[00:00:17] and yelling at them or talking about how it makes you feel or the same that they brought in your family. Because at this point it's about trying to not lose a soul.

[00:00:27] And if you begin to fuss at them and yell at them and jab at them, that young person told me they probably never taught you again. Another thing that is really, really becoming I will say more prevalent upon our young people is the whole LGBT thing.

[00:00:48] And I know this is a sensitive subject. I started not to even talk about it because it's very sensitive. I said young people are struggling with this. Let's just call it what it is.

[00:01:01] They're struggling with it and in the church it can be very difficult to get help because that sort of thing is, you know, people just judge it so quickly. It's not one of those things where, you know, people like, what are you doing that?

[00:01:16] You know what I mean? So it's not fair. You know, a struggle is a struggle. A sin is a sin. God looks at everything that is unguided as sin. He doesn't put it in different categories and I don't think we should either. God loves everybody.

[00:01:30] So let me ask you this, minister Calvin. What are some of the best ways to help young people that may be struggling with homosexuality? And I'm not, you know, like I said, I'm not putting like a big spotlight on this, saying

[00:01:45] that this is the worst thing out of everything because I know there's different struggles for different people. However, this thing right here, it can be very tricky because people are embracing it. Like there's nothing wrong with it.

[00:01:59] Like, oh God is with this and for this and he's not. So what are your thoughts on that? As far as young people dealing with this, what do you feel is a good approach as a Christian

[00:02:16] as a youth minister on how to deal with young people who are struggling with that? So not as a youth minister, but as a young minister, I am coming to understand that people will come to you with all of this stuff.

[00:02:38] I mean it's like, whenever you come to your CPA into the year and you just drop all of your receipts on the table, here's all of my stuff, here's all my problems.

[00:02:51] And they'll come to you at the most random of times, you're just trying to go into church and you know, they'll come to you with this information and they're trusting you to remember this information with detail to the point where you can communicate with them

[00:03:04] about it but also not to repeat it to a soul. So now you are praying for them and praying about these things and talking them about it. And if you really want them to be delivered, now their struggles are becoming your struggles.

[00:03:25] So I am learning that no matter what the situation is, I have to approach it the same way. That is making sure that I communicate that whatever the struggle is, what does not change is that I love you.

[00:03:46] I am here for you and I'm going to work through this situation with you. Another thing that does not change is God loves you. He is here for you and he will work through with you through this situation.

[00:04:05] That is the most important thing, so as I mentioned taught, you know, I have young people at my church, young people in the community, you know, I talk with friends and family, cousins, things that at nature and there are a lot of young people who are struggle with

[00:04:23] this, more than we would think. So as they are struggling with this, I looked them in eyes, as I said, you know, I tell them I do love them and this is not going to change the fact that I will continue

[00:04:38] to pray for you nonstop and I will continue to work with you and we will work through this struggle together. From there, I tell them thank you for telling me this, no matter who it is, a don't

[00:04:52] shout, thank you for telling me because you did not have to share this with me. Not only because you did not have to share with this with me, but also now I can know how to pray. So thank you for sharing that with me.

[00:05:03] It must take a lot of courage because you probably didn't want to tell anybody else that in the first place. So thank you for coming to me about this. You know what I mean?

[00:05:10] Now, beginning to have the conversation with them and you know about these things and everything like that if it's something that I feel that they need to tell their parents, you know, ask them, you know, have you say the thing to your parents, do you feel comfortable, you

[00:05:22] know, talking with your parents about this, you know? I continue to, if by the time they've come to you with something like that, you should have already built the relationship in the first place.

[00:05:34] Most likely they wouldn't come to you with something like that if you had not already built the relationship but you have to understand the relationship that you do have with the young person, understanding what you can say because you don't want to say anything.

[00:05:47] One of my young people told me the last thing you want to do is start fussing at them and yelling at them or talking about how it makes you feel or the same that they brought

[00:05:57] on your family because at this point it's about trying to not lose a soul. And if you begin to fuss at them and yell at them and jab at them that young person told me, they're probably never told you again.

[00:06:10] And we can't have that, especially if we're the parent, you know? I don't really that, but we also want to make sure and forgive me if I'm hurting somebody feelings but I don't care I'm just being a hundred percent honest here.

[00:06:25] We don't want to just first start going to what the Bible says this and the Bible says that and this and that and that goes back to the conversation we were just having before about how young people feel like it's just a book of rules.

[00:06:36] It's actually a book of guidelines, it's a book of a cheat code. You know how you can be successful in life, you know what I mean? You have to use it as such. You know what I mean?

[00:06:46] When you're playing a video game and you have the cheat code, you have to make sure that you actually press the buttons, it says press. If you don't press the buttons, it says press. You won't get the results that you want to get.

[00:06:56] The game has rules, this game of life has rules. If you don't follow the rules on the game, you won't be able to win. I mean, you might be able to play but you won't have the same enjoyment that you might

[00:07:06] have if you just follow the rules in the same way in life. So with our young people, although I do know that the words specifically talks about these specific sense that they're coming to me with even if they're coming with lesbianism,

[00:07:22] homosexuality, I don't begin to quote what Leviticus says. Just because obviously if they were listening and applying what Leviticus said, we wouldn't be having this conversation. So maybe they need me to take the word of God that has already inside me as probably

[00:07:39] like it can't be in the first place and be able to use the word of God that has inside me to counsel them so that they can be delivered from their situation. But then it goes back to praying in the spirit and interseeding in the spirit and

[00:07:52] fasting in the spirit. I need to be able to do that for them and I also need to be able to add that point as a perfect time. Since I've already built the relationship, I have you ever heard of praying in the spirit.

[00:08:02] I mean, do you want to learn how to pray in the spirit? Do you know what that means? We can do it right now, you know, and begin to go through those steps of intercession, consecration, fasting, and praying about specific situations that they are struggling with.

[00:08:22] That was so good. And what I got from what you said was, show them love. That's what you said in all of that, you have to show them love. You have to. You can't look down at them. None of those things you have to show them love.

[00:08:41] Am I, I have like an experience where when I was in college, a guy usually doesn't sit next to me but he was late for class to stay and then

[00:08:55] he had to sit next to me and then from that day on he said next to me and he was just saying, I don't know it's just something about you. And you know, my heart went out to him because he began to talk about his life

[00:09:08] and how corrupt it was and how much abuse he went through and all these things. And I truly believe that's why he turned to that lifestyle. And it just maybe have so much compassion. I couldn't like look at him the same.

[00:09:23] Like I couldn't do that anymore because I had so much compassion for him like man, this guy is really going through it. And so like you said, you can't help but to pray for people. Now he doesn't come from the church so or anything like that.

[00:09:39] So it wasn't like, oh let me give my blessed soil. Let me do all that but it was like man, let me let me pray for him because he needs it. You know what I mean?

[00:09:49] And I didn't have to bust it out right in middle of class but you know, am I in my quiet time, you know, just send a prayers and like still do it to this day. I haven't seen him.

[00:10:00] I haven't seen him, you know he's when his going his way I'm going mine but, you know, those prayers can keep going and then there was another instance where I was in the church

[00:10:10] and there was a young lady there and you can tell that she was in that lifestyle. And she was sitting in this church. It wasn't my church, it was another church I was at. I felt I don't know. I've, I discerned what was going on.

[00:10:23] She really wanted to get out of the lifestyle but she didn't know how. She just didn't know how to get out. Like it was almost like she was stuck there and she was sitting in church. She was sitting in church, they were shouting maybe doing everything.

[00:10:39] Also church wasn't enough? They were shouting and everything and she was just sitting here and I could tell she was in deep thought and she wanted to get out. She just didn't know how to get out.

[00:10:51] So yes the whole, the church time is in this stuff that's good but sometimes people need that instruction like you've been talking about this whole episode which is good. They have to learn how to pray in this spirit, how to build a relationship with God,

[00:11:07] how to fast and unfortunately people who are in the church they don't know how. They're not given it sound teaching on how to do that and it's so crazy that we're talking about this because someone else that I recently interviewed the same way

[00:11:26] she was going to in church all her life and she said she's never been like disabled. Like she never learned how to be like a disciple. So it's real it happens where people are in church but they don't know how to really tap

[00:11:40] into the spirit to get free from these different things or to tap into that next level with God. They don't know how. You just brought up something I'm gonna come back to that because I don't want to forget this

[00:11:52] here. There's some of mine right now you were just talking about the power of prayer. I think as Christians we underestimate the power of prayer as I said before, you can pray for somebody they won't be able to do anything about it.

[00:12:07] One of the brothers that taught me how to witness bring this back. He was telling me about a situation he was dealing with with a young man and the entire time the altercation was going on. The young man is you know, jab net about the

[00:12:20] everything like that and he's just shaking and saying praying in his head the entire time, pleading the blood of Jesus. They can't stop us from praying and I think sometimes we underestimate

[00:12:29] the power of prayer and speaking to being disabled one of the things that I learned not that someone said this is what you do but one thing that I learned through this journey of the discipleship I'm

[00:12:40] going through is the power of whenever you tell somebody a problem and them saying I'm going pray for you compared to whenever you tell somebody your problem and then they say let's pray.

[00:12:54] So that is something that I do now with my young people as well but I just wanted to say just like there's like, you know, there should be some coursework if you're going to be a medical doctor

[00:13:08] and just like there should be some coursework if you're going to be in a lectrition. I know we say you know just come as you are, you know what I mean and God loves you he does

[00:13:18] but it will be wonderful like if they pushed you through a strenuous course I'm not saying that you you know, because you've been told us what we said. There'd be some people who was still

[00:13:28] doing their first day and kindergarten of that was the case but it would be nice if there actually was this laid out hey when you first become a Christian these are the things that you learn

[00:13:38] then you're second you learn these things but the thing about it is because we all grow and grace guys understand that we move in different ways so we may not be able to benefit from that but discipleship is extremely important and learning how to disciple others if extremely

[00:13:53] important especially if you're going to be in a position like myself where you're going to be around young people and your ultimate goals are try to lead them in Christ. Hey man, hey man it's all of

[00:14:05] that I've really enjoyed you on here today and I just want to say this like I don't think people really know are they really having tapped into how evil the devil is and how evil the kingdom

[00:14:27] of darkness is like he does not wait until you get 30 to tempt you. He doesn't wait to you get good and grown to come at you. He's coming at you when you're one two years old. He's

[00:14:40] planting stuff in your mind as a baby. He's taking all of those generational things from your grandparents and stuff and you know he's bringing that in your life so like it's deep it's so

[00:14:51] so deep and so I said that to say when you see an attack on a young person you can't just look at it like okay because the devil's not playing like he wants them he's coming for them so strong right now

[00:15:08] he's not just waiting he's not coming from the teenage he's coming for the babies. He's coming for the babies in all different areas the babies the teenagers so the name of this episode and I think

[00:15:20] it's very appropriate is that we have to fight for them you can't just sit back and say that's shame that's that's messed up look what's happening and look at them they not you have to

[00:15:33] they don't have like you said when you mentioned earlier oh that was good they may not even know how to fight for themselves in the spirit so we gotta do a forum until they can get there

[00:15:46] we have to do a forum they don't know how to fast for themselves they don't know how to pray for themselves like they should they may not know that and so why are we gonna beat them up

[00:15:54] instead of beating up the one who's attacking them and you can't do that in the flesh you have to do that in the spirit you just do the devil the kingdom of darkness is so evil I don't think we know

[00:16:10] how he he is evil he doesn't like anybody he don't like Jaycee a Beyonce either he doesn't like them either like he's using them for his glory but he don't like them so it's like all these people like the devil don't like nobody he's no one's friend

[00:16:30] it's all about the soul and I'm glad you mentioned that too it's all about these souls and so I am really encouraging everyone is listening to try to light a fire upon to you to really

[00:16:44] go hard for maybe these people and your family maybe use people in your church maybe it's not even your child but you see something going on you don't have to run to the family and say well

[00:16:56] you should do as you can just go home and you're poor at closet and just go to prayer you can just fast on there behalf like you don't have to announce it to everybody but

[00:17:05] it's something that we need to do because if we don't do it more and more of our young people are going to fall by the wayside and if that generation falls by the wayside who's going to take

[00:17:16] over when we're gone when the older generation leaves or you know two old to operate that's our future so why aren't we fighting them? There it like and that's why the enemy is fighting so hard

[00:17:29] against them he hates them so you said so many wonderful things I had to just get that out of my system that was good um what I want you to do right now I'm going to say I mean you pretty much said it

[00:17:44] but give us just a quick recap of how we can fight for them quick recap of the things that we can do in the spirit or just in general to fight for our young people so they can be more involved

[00:18:02] you know on this side instead of on the enemy side on on God's side living living their life for Christ and doing things for Christ and working the ministry and doing those things um you need to

[00:18:16] build a relationship with them as you build your relationship with Christ yes as you continue to build your relationship with them you're going to get to the point what they're going to reveal things to you just like as you continue to build your relationship with Christ

[00:18:38] he is going to get to the point where he's going to continue to reveal things to you that's good as they are revealing these things to you you aren't to pray about these things

[00:18:49] you're about you are to intercede for them about these things and you? it's full of the fact about these things until a change does come. Just like as Jesus, as God reveals these things to you,

[00:19:00] you are to pray about these things, you're supposed to fast about these things, you're supposed to tell your brothers and sisters to intercede with you about these things until those things come to pass. And you continue that process on and on. It's about building the relationship,

[00:19:19] a one thing that we in the body of Christ, whether you are following Christ or not, anyone listening to this podcast must understand. You have one purpose here, okay? That is to do whatever you can, whatever you can to get into heaven and bring along as many people

[00:19:41] as you can on the way. You are to be lifting and as you are as you are lifting others up, you are climbing up as well. That's what we have to do as our followers of Christ. We have to

[00:19:52] lift as we climb. That's good. That's good. Okay, yeah. So yeah, enjoy you. Thank you for being here. Oh thank you for having me. I really enjoyed it. So why don't you tell the people,

[00:20:05] since you post videos and stuff? How they can find these wonderful videos because maybe they like, hey, I want to follow him instead. So why don't you tell the listeners how they can follow you

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